My mother is 89 and things are getting difficult again. I'm accused of everything, stealing her iron, her invalidated bank card, anything she mislays and she is telephoning all day and all night into the early hours. She won't accept any assistance from outside as she trusts no one. If I answer the phone she tries to manipulate everything to being my fault and I'm accused of never doing anything for her at any time(without me she would have to be in a home) while my brother who never visits her(for years) lives 2 miles away and is the one placed on a pedestal by her. He hates her because of the control exerted upon us since childhood. I've moved 180 miles south to be nearer to help her so that I can honour her long term desire not to be in a home. Her memory lasts for less than a goldfish 's memory unless it is something bad. Asking a community person who telephones my mum....how bad an example of Dementia this is....I just got an apology that it is really bad how I am treated. The police have even been called by my mother after I've been accused of stealing her bank card. I'm her Power of attorney and am totally trustworthy but slated at every opportunity it seems while to my face in public she tells them that I'm there for her. This seems like a living nightmare...lived daily.
All this accusation can get you so so down. I know I'm honest but she tells everyone that her daughter(me) has done this and that. I'm struggling. Having moved it is also quite lonely not to know people to talk with. I've just joined this group , I'm not a great techno person so I may not even know how to follow a thread here but definitely feel that one needs some support.
All this accusation can get you so so down. I know I'm honest but she tells everyone that her daughter(me) has done this and that. I'm struggling. Having moved it is also quite lonely not to know people to talk with. I've just joined this group , I'm not a great techno person so I may not even know how to follow a thread here but definitely feel that one needs some support.