My situation is probably very much like many posters here so I'm hoping many of you may have some reassurance.
My mum has been in the Mental Health Unit of the local hospital since April 2007. She was initially on an assessment ward and eventually responded quite well to treatment. The background of her admission is very briefly - my dad suffered a ruptured aortic aneurysm in Jan 2006. An erst while healthy 80 year old became a fragile invalid and when he eventually came out of hospital mum just couldn't cope. She has always been anxious and had already started showing signs of early stage dementia before dads illness. Anyway, she couldn't cope when he came home and was admitted to the Unit.
AFter about five months the doctors decided to let her go home for a few hours, which was fine, but when they decided to let her try a stay overnight it all went horribly wrong and dad being so frail couldn't cope with her. The decison was made for her to go into Residential Care. Finally a lovely home was found and we moved mum on Wednesday.
Since her move though she has cried incessantly, had terrible temper tantrums, she wouldn't get dressed today and my previously gentle mum slapped me round the face!
I dearly wanted mum and dad to be together, they have been married for nearly 60 years and are devoted. I am dad's carer now, but his needs are completely different to mum's, so they won't take him in a dementia home. It's a hideous situation and I've cried buckets.
Do you think mum will settle in the new home? It's so much nicer than the hospital unit but I am fearful she end up there. Anybody had a similar experience?
BettyL
My mum has been in the Mental Health Unit of the local hospital since April 2007. She was initially on an assessment ward and eventually responded quite well to treatment. The background of her admission is very briefly - my dad suffered a ruptured aortic aneurysm in Jan 2006. An erst while healthy 80 year old became a fragile invalid and when he eventually came out of hospital mum just couldn't cope. She has always been anxious and had already started showing signs of early stage dementia before dads illness. Anyway, she couldn't cope when he came home and was admitted to the Unit.
AFter about five months the doctors decided to let her go home for a few hours, which was fine, but when they decided to let her try a stay overnight it all went horribly wrong and dad being so frail couldn't cope with her. The decison was made for her to go into Residential Care. Finally a lovely home was found and we moved mum on Wednesday.
Since her move though she has cried incessantly, had terrible temper tantrums, she wouldn't get dressed today and my previously gentle mum slapped me round the face!
I dearly wanted mum and dad to be together, they have been married for nearly 60 years and are devoted. I am dad's carer now, but his needs are completely different to mum's, so they won't take him in a dementia home. It's a hideous situation and I've cried buckets.
Do you think mum will settle in the new home? It's so much nicer than the hospital unit but I am fearful she end up there. Anybody had a similar experience?
BettyL