I have a friend who is a social co-ordinator in a home in Australia, she said the other week there they had a lockdown as one of the residents escaped.
Lisa57, Lisethepiece and Moonflower, your last three posts cheered me up a bit as I followed this thread. My Mum also tries to get the residents together to complain about things ( no mass escape yet ) but is disheartened because they all tell her that they are happy and to calm down.
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Have others experienced judgemental comments about putting their parent in a CH. People and the media preach about the fact that it's such an honourable thing to do to care for your parent at home as opposed to putting them in a CH. I don't think people understand dementia. We were forced to put Mum in. cH for her own safety.
I have also met with judgmental comments, generally from people who don't understand the situation. I agree they can try caring for my mother in their home for a few weeks and then tell me how that goes.
I had a particularly nasty lecture from one of the neighbours, who didn't think my mother was ill, couldn't understand why she'd gone to hospital (was falling and hurting herself and wandering early in the cold with no coat and no idea of where she was or what was happening not a good reason to seek treatment? really??), and why I had "forced" her to go into a CH. There is no reasoning with, or talking to, some people.
Generally the people I care about, and who care about me, don't make such comments, thank goodness. I would not react well!
So yes, Lise, it happens and I'm sorry if this has happened to you. I have learned that there is no point in engaging these people in discussion. I just say, I'm following the doctors' orders, and then change the subject. When people like this ask how she is, I say, she's okay, thank you, and then change the subject. No explanation, no excuses seems to work.
But don't get me started on the media!
I have also met with judgmental comments, generally from people who don't understand the situation. I agree they can try caring for my mother in their home for a few weeks and then tell me how that goes.
I had a particularly nasty lecture from one of the neighbours, who didn't think my mother was ill, couldn't understand why she'd gone to hospital (was falling and hurting herself and wandering early in the cold with no coat and no idea of where she was or what was happening not a good reason to seek treatment? really??), and why I had "forced" her to go into a CH. There is no reasoning with, or talking to, some people.
Generally the people I care about, and who care about me, don't make such comments, thank goodness. I would not react well!
So yes, Lise, it happens and I'm sorry if this has happened to you. I have learned that there is no point in engaging these people in discussion. I just say, I'm following the doctors' orders, and then change the subject. When people like this ask how she is, I say, she's okay, thank you, and then change the subject. No explanation, no excuses seems to work.
But don't get me started on the media!