Lisa57, Lisethepiece and Moonflower, your last three posts cheered me up a bit as I followed this thread. My Mum also tries to get the residents together to complain about things ( no mass escape yet ) but is disheartened because they all tell her that they are happy and to calm down. Unfortunately Mum is not happy , I am the xxxxx of a daughter who put her in CH to suit myself and too weak to stand up to the doctors. Even more unfortunately she harks back to a difficult time we had 25 years ago and goes through this episode on a loop, it is as if she knows exactly how to hurt. It helps me to try to look through her eyes: even though we resolved the issue at the time she has forgotten that, and also perhaps never really forgave so it niggled. All I can hope for is that she links on to nicer memories and this obsession stops. Some of the post here have given me some hope.