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Why The Care has to be Consistent

Norrms

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WHY THE CARE HAS TO BE CONSISTENT
When you caring for somebody with dementia-like me, or caring for anybody else who needs it, getting the right type of care is so important, and when it comes to someone with dementia, even more so in my humble opinion. People have often asked me if I could go back ten years, is there anything I would change? I always say YES! I would tell myself not to be so selfish and stubborn and accept the care offered at the time. Looking back now I can see how tired my wife was and how stressed she would get without getting any kind of break.
If you work as a paid carer, you can hand over or clock off at the end of the day, but when you’re looking after someone at home like a loved one, you certainly can’t, it’s a 24/7 job and a very hard one at that, so you have to make sure you get a break yourselves, after all, if we don’t look after the carers? Who will look after the cared for? So often I have been told that when carers get a break for six or seven hours it feels like a weekend away, it means so much.
The most important thing is to try and “suit” the carer with the person who needs care and this can be done in a few ways. You are fully within your rights to ask the “would-be” carer to come and have a coffee with you and meet your loved one who needs care. The care companies all need your hard-earned money and no matter how long it takes, it’s so important to get this right. Also getting someone about the same age is pivotal as usually, they will have the same interests. Also, some men only want male company and the same for ladies. A shared interest is always a great thing, for me and my carer it's fishing, but for some, it may be football, or bowling, Bingo, or dominoes, it really doesn’t matter but far better to chat away about things you like than things you don’t.
The one thing that anybody being looked after will tell you, which is the most important, is consistency. Please know you can ask and insist for the same carer every time they visit and if the care company won’t do that? Then look for one that will, they do exist, I have had the same carer for 5 years now, bless him, it really is that simple, you are paying them to provide a service. If you paid for a settee on HP and they sent you an oven you wouldn’t pay for that would you?? A bit extreme I know but you can see what I mean. The thing is, to see the same friendly face on a regular basis is so important to the person being cared for, they become friends and a relationship of trust and friendship is built. As you know, I am no novice to this, and I know some companies change staff like we all change our socks, but there are a lot of incredible wonderful carers out there who have worked for the same company for years. They will have the know-how, they will have the experience and they will know what to do in an emergency situation if that ever arises.
So please choose carefully because you yourself also need to know and have the peace of mind that your loved one is being looked after as well
Norrms
 

Banjomansmate

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My neighbour’s daughter works as a carer and has customers who ask for her but the care company say the carers mustn’t get too close/involved with them and send someone else! Bonkers!
 

Norrms

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Totally, then the customer should look around for a company that does what tyhet are asked, thats what they are paid for
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jennifer1967

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you need to speak to my husband about the first part of the post and giving them breaks etc. you seem a very well balanced man who is willing to what is best for both of you.
 

Banjomansmate

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If you are receiving care through the LA you are reliant on whatever contract they have been able to organise, you have little choice!
 

Norrms

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If you are receiving care through the LA you are reliant on whatever contract they have been able to organise, you have little choice!
So sorry but you have every choice, its your choice not theirs, if you can write and tell me this you can tell the LA that your not happy and want to change care companies, i wish you so much luck, i would not want to see anybody unhappy with their carer xxxxxxxx
 

Banjomansmate

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So sorry but you have every choice, its your choice not theirs, if you can write and tell me this you can tell the LA that your not happy and want to change care companies, i wish you so much luck, i would not want to see anybody unhappy with their carer xxxxxxxx
I no longer have the problem but when the LA were looking for a care firm to take on The Banjoman his care package was put out to tender and if no care firm had the capacity or wanted to take it on we were stuck! Through a couple of years he had carers from three different firms (none of whom I had concerns about). As it happened he ended up in hospital just as the only care firm who could accept him were about to say they could no longer cope with him. From hospital he went into residential care.