He was the robot in Short Circuit, the film, and that's how I think of Mum's dementia. Her brain is short circuiting. By the way, I'm a woman, so Johnny may confuse. We moved Mum into a home near me 4 months ago after it became clear she was no longer safe on her own. The move was really hard and she changed her mind about moving every day up to and including moving day. 4 days later she begged me to take her home and I had to get my brother to drive up 75 miles to help calm her down and convince her to stay. Since then things have settled somewhat but I've been unable to see her for a week as I've had a chest infection. She was very confused today and begged me to take her back to my home. I know "reasoning" is useless but I felt so helpless. She has always been difficult and manipulating and for that reason has not visited my brother's or sister's home for years. I know I could not look after her and my husband would not let me put her before my own health, (I've had nervous breakdowns in the past) anyway. I was told today she had stripped off in the medical room on Fri and defecated on the floor. She would be horrified if she remembered it. I'm now petrified of going to see her tomorrow as a carer had to prevent her following me out of the CH and Mum was threatening throwing herself off the roof. The staff are thinking of getting her GP in to do a psychiatric assessment. I salute each and every one of you caring for your loved ones. I feel so guilty for not wanting to bring Mum home but I'm scared I would snap and hurt her. By the way, in 1 hour today I was apparently, Mum's daughter, sister and mother and she spoke to me making complete sense if I were her mother. It's helped just putting this down in writing. In September, we were told Mum had liver cancer and I was relieved (THERE! I'VE SAID IT) but her GP had "jumped the gun" and we've just been told it's just liver cysts. Sometimes I just want to hide under the bedclothes and stay there 'til it's all over.