Hi everyone
I have to ask the above.
Mums been in the home for 5 months now..settled of sorts,, but after the hell that came before her sectioning, for her & us, we know the home is the right choice ..I feel guilt when I have a great visit, releived when I don't.
.
But reading some posts on here, I've read ''cannot stick my mum in a home'' or talking to people ' I couldn't do that to my mum'
I know there are some awful places out there, but why should i feel 'lucky' that I chose a nice place for my mum & be made to feel as though I've committed my mum to an ayslum!!
Is the home my mums in perfect..no.
I've lost the number of times I've found someone else's clothes or mums towels aren't as white as they first were or her room could do with a dust!
My mum has put on nearly a stone, has a weekly bath, gets her hair done once a month, has company..even though she says ' they are all mad in here' & on the good days...think she works there! The staff give my mum hugs n kisses, send me little emails with pics of what she's up to.
I know I couldn't care for my mum ...hats off to those who do, they do a brilliant unthanked for role....but I'm fed up for feeling like I've done something wrong!
Sorry for this little rant...just had a comment today that has sent me over the edge and this forum is the only place I know most understand.
Sas x
My mum s sa
I have to ask the above.
Mums been in the home for 5 months now..settled of sorts,, but after the hell that came before her sectioning, for her & us, we know the home is the right choice ..I feel guilt when I have a great visit, releived when I don't.
.
But reading some posts on here, I've read ''cannot stick my mum in a home'' or talking to people ' I couldn't do that to my mum'
I know there are some awful places out there, but why should i feel 'lucky' that I chose a nice place for my mum & be made to feel as though I've committed my mum to an ayslum!!
Is the home my mums in perfect..no.
I've lost the number of times I've found someone else's clothes or mums towels aren't as white as they first were or her room could do with a dust!
My mum has put on nearly a stone, has a weekly bath, gets her hair done once a month, has company..even though she says ' they are all mad in here' & on the good days...think she works there! The staff give my mum hugs n kisses, send me little emails with pics of what she's up to.
I know I couldn't care for my mum ...hats off to those who do, they do a brilliant unthanked for role....but I'm fed up for feeling like I've done something wrong!
Sorry for this little rant...just had a comment today that has sent me over the edge and this forum is the only place I know most understand.
Sas x
My mum s sa