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@MaNaAk , my heart goes out to both of you. Nobody has the perfect family, or indeed, the perfect upbringing, but it seems that both you and your siblings have carried childhood issues and resentments into adulthood, which is so sad. Your parents seemed unable or unwilling to do much about this. Maybe they didn’t think it was terribly important that their kids should all get on, but I guess a lot of parents of their generation believed that once the kids were grown, they no longer had a responsibility to them. The burdens you’ve both carried throughout your lives would give the lie to that philosophy.
@Wildflower lady, your sister’s behaviour has been shocking and appears clearly borne out of jealousy, but that’s no excuse for the harm it’s inflicted on both of your families. As far as a headstone is concerned, please do as others have advised and have the wording you choose. Even if it’s not as much as you have room for, always remember that the most important words will be carried in your heart.
@MaNaAk, you’re making progress with your Invisibles, even if it will never be perfect. You’ve come such a long way through the threads on this forum and you’ve been so gracious in your attitude to them. Perhaps they haven’t always deserved it, but you’ve been a credit to your family, I’m sure your parents would be so proud.