I have immense respect for male carers like yourself, not just because you are male but because you operate in a society, maybe even world, where it is apparently not the "norm" to be good at doing such a job. I wish you could meet my brother and tell him a thing or two. I respect that you are part of the change which may eventually happen where people lose those outdated and preconceived ideas which hurt us.As a male career I really take issue with this kind of sentiment. I’ve been caring for my mum full time for the last four years. She‘s incontinent, can’t walk, can’t talk and can’t feed herself. From the moment I wake up till the moment I go to sleep I cater to her every need. Twenty four hours a day, seven days a week. It’s all me all the time.
Before I became my mums carer, my dad took care of her. He thought so much of caring for mum and not fussing about his own problems that it killed him. He literally worked himself to death putting my mums needs ahead of his own.
You know there’s a lot of us out there that are sons, husbands and brothers and we do the work And take the responsibility.
It’s this kind of rhetoric about useless males that makes me so angry. I get it from neighbours, medical professional, strangers. Oh you shouldn’t be looking after her. She needs someone who can look after her properly.
so once in a while maybe stop and have a think about what it may be like in world that’s not very accepting of male carers and remember where that sexism predominantly comes from