When my husband is being uncooperative and difficult I still have a tendancy to react and argue with him. It's not until we are a few minutes into an arguement that I realise he really cannot hold what I am saying in his head and that it isn't like it used to be, I can't have a conversation with him any more and he isn't my husband ( or not the way he used to be) he's another person, a poor old man that can't cope with his condition. How do I keep my cool, I feel alone all the time and I've lost my mate, my friend. That's how it feels anyway. I hope this makes sense, it's early in the morning! Chris.