I haven't posted for a while. My mother who has vascular dementia moved into a care home in October.after 4 years of living with me and my partner. I couldn't give her the support and care that she needed. So following advice from the professional's I agreed to move her into care. I spent a lot of time choosing the care home and was pleasantly surprised when mum settled in very quickly. Mum always seems happy. It is not perfect but I think I may have unrealistic expectations. Most of the staff are kind and thoughtful. Mum has a group of friends. I visit every couple of days and carry out activities with mum and her friends. We have a great time. Mum doesn't always know who I am but she is always pleased to see me. All sounds pretty good so why do I feel so bad? I feel sad, angry, useless and guilty. I cry for no apparent reason. Is this some sort of grieving or am I going bonkers?