Yesterday I phoned Volcare. I wanted to know if they had any Indian carers, who could be introduced to my husband as friends I had met at the support group. It was unlikely, but not impossible, and the person I spoke to was very cooperative and promised to make enquiries. She wasn`t too keen on the `friend` aspect though. It is a health and safety proviso that people entering homes should do so on a professional footing. I find that acceptable. We chatted. This person was a communicator. During our chat she mentioned Crossroads. I was told, for the first time I`m sure, that with Crossroads I can self assess. There is no need for a visit, no need for my husband to be involved, I can fill in a form with all our details and send it off. As the waiting list for Croosroads is long, the sooner I get on their books, the better. How come I`ve missed out on this information? Do I have my head in the sand? All the time I`ve heard and seen information about Crossroads, not once do I recall learning I could self assess. Considering the contacts I have, I find it unbelieveable that I should have missed out on such an important piece of information. Communication, communication, communication.