Mum was diagnosed with mild dementia a couple of years ago and prescribed Arasept. She was reluctant to take any tablets and now has a carer to ensure she takes her meds. She broke her hip two months ago and is worse . She has become doubly incontinent , her mobility is poor and she is a little dis inhibited. Both my sister and I felt that she should go into residential and we argued for two hour with the social worker about this .Mum lives in a second floor flat and now finds it hard to go up and down stairs. She will not wear her pads and if she does she leaves them in the shower or hides them under the couch ! She hides her food so the carers think she is eating and her short term memory is much worse. I have been on to her CPN and social worker and they both feel she has capacity and is doing fine. She has carers four times a day and my sister visits four times a week . I only go once a week as I work and do not live locally . She tells people she does all her own washing and cooking but in reality all she does is sit and watch TV all day . Her mobility is worse an NO ONE will listen. She is not coping ........what can we do ?