I think people don't understand
- how much it takes over families lives, splits families and causes trauma far beyond the patient - often without the knowledge of the patient
- memory loss is not just memories. It's how to tie your shoes, what a plate is, where it goes, how to clean your teeth. Everything. Forgetting your grandson's name is just the start of it
- that it is terminal and HOW it is terminal
- different kinds of dementia and how they may present
- cause is not fully known - slightly sick of people assuming my dad was abusing alcohol and that caused it!
- PWD can be confused, violent, happy, sad, depressed, content, bored, impulsive - all the things those without dementia can be, but they may have less control over these feelings and moods than neurotypical adults and they may well not be able to use or learn coping strategies to deal with the negative feelings or impulses
- there is no cure. Things which 'help' do not cure, won't help everyone and may not help anyone for very long e.g. fiddle muffs, dolls
- Learning to do new things is very hard, potentially impossible for those with certain types of dementia. Therefore, rotas, lists, whiteboards, clocks, signs etc - all the things we would usually use to help us cope with the day to day will not work - or not work for very long. My dad used a calendar until he forgot where to put appointments and then what day it was.