Well done with everything so far, and I wish you all the best for the next stages.Such very interesting and valuable points made in this thread.
I attended a 2 hour discharge meeting today - exhausting. For the first time I met my husband's social worker. He has seen him once. I had to ask for a copy of the nurse's assessment which was emailed, after reminding, yesterday at 5pm, 40 page document. I was not able to process it sufficiently before the meeting and was shocked about some of the comments. I arrived and there were no hard copies (no my printer is not working!). Fortunately our Alzheimer's support worker was able to to attend virtually, she was and continues to be very valuable. Just before the meeting 2 students approach me asking if it's OK to sit in! Sorry no. My husband has not communicated with his son for 3 years, and does not want to see his brother. In the meeting the social worker tells me that daughter in law contacted social services mid February asking for contact - I had no idea and feel a major headache coming on. I tried to remain composed but did start to cry. However, after all that, I have to say that it became clear the struggles the staff face having to work within the processes and systems in place. I think this is the key. There are so many different agencies involved and they do not speak to each other and carers as well as our loved ones are stuck in the middle. As we are reminded many a time - we all want what is best for . . . . Yes, we know this, but they need to streamline and try to minimise bureaucratic chaos leave carers as if they are in limbo. They and the social worker, despite not having met him before, were kind, supportive and willing to listen. At the end all were agreed that my husband will be going into residential care. So now the next battle is finances.