Hi I havent been on for a while. Mum went into hospital for a while after having terrifying hallucinations one night. Finally mum was diagnosed as having vascular dementia. I have been so busy this summer - mainly to set up care for mum as I am going to university next week. I took mum to the hairdresser today and she forgot her purse - when I came to pick her up she was in a right state. I reassured her that it was at home but mum was really anxious. When we got to her house I discovered that mum had picked up the wrong bag. Mum broke down and cried and said "what is happening to me - what would I do without you?"I held her and cried too. When I got home mum rang me to say that she had had a lovely holiday and that she had just got back. I am worried that mum will need me and I wont be there. I am travelling to uni everyday as I have children at school but I know that I wont be able to see mum as often as I do now. Carers are poping in to make sure she has had her tablets - but is that enough? Mum is so vunerable she left her bag on the bus this week, she fiddled about with her gas fire, she gets food out of the freezer leaves it in the fridge for a couple of days and when I go to throw it out she says "Oh thats ok until March 2008"and then there is the awful nightmares and hallucinations. The thing that really upsets me is my sisters - I cannot believe how they are behaving. When mum was in hospital they were there every night interferring and when mum came home they all disappeared. I have asked my sisters for support but they dont want to know (one of them visits probably twice a year and then brings mum round to my house so she doesnt have to deal with it) the other one is deliberately awkward - I spent ages getting mum to have home meals delivered because of the problems with mum getting stuff out of the freezer and leaving it for days and she went and got mum a set of saucepans!!! She also buys mum really stupid hats and bags that mum would never normally dream of buying - its like she is taking the mickey. My eldest sister is great she visits once a week if she can and is always on the end of the phone for me. I am very close to my mum but she says I need to back off a bit and let mum get on with it but thats easier said than done when mum rings up all the time and when she needs support when shes upset. When I went on holiday this year mum emptied her tablets out and my sister had to ring me up to get it sorted and the awkward one took mum to the doctors and demanded loads of blood tests (which I had to follow up with on my return!!) It was then I discovered that my sisters didnt know anything about what goes on behind the scenes so I have decided to write a letter to all of them with all the appointments, medication, contact numbers so that if I am not around perhaps they could help out! What do you think?