My Ma is in what seems to be a well run, friendly care home, and is in I guess early midddle stages of the disease. I live a long way away and can only get down to see her about once a month. My sister is closer and visits about once a fortnight. Recently Ma has been telling my sister that she isn't getting a shower or a bath daily. The home's owner says that Ma is often very cross in the morning and refuses said bath or shower, but that if she does refuse they "almost always" get her to have one in the evenings. My sister is convinced that this isn't happening, and I just don't know.... People with AD, whose memories are faulty, must be easy targets for those who choose to deny the truth of what they say, but at the same time, I know my Ma gets angry.... I'm trying to mediate between a number of people and look after her interests. We have asked the home to ensure that they write in Ma's diary when incidents of this sort happen, and maybe that's a;ll that can be done.