Hi @Violetrose, great to hear from another Manc! it’s many years since I lived there (I married a soldier and moved every few years until settling the other side of the Pennines) but my heart will always be there. It certainly does help knowing others share virtually the same experiences and understand and support each other. I hope you are ok, sending you love and hugs xx

 

Or could you make a flask up, put it in a backpack and bring it through and sit down and pour it into a nice cup (also carried through in the backpack)

glad to hear you are home, hope you heal quickly

 

Or put them in a bag with long handles that could go over your head

 

So glad your surgery seems to have gone well @Sad Staffs

You have to concentrate now on getting yourself back to normal so that your husband can come home to you soon. Look after yourself and hope all is back to normal for you soon but please take it easy while you have the chance.

Best wishes xx

 

So glad to hear you are back home. love A

 

I was starting to think about Day Care and reading your post has made me think. My husband is so like yours and one minute the dementia obvious, then hidden. I know he won’t like it and is even a bit against it when the family help out, “I shall be fine on my own” he says. So I realise how glad you will be when he is home, but not before you are back on your feet properly I hope. Keep up the good work with your rehabilitation.

 

Hi @Sad Staffs . Just an idea.....could a visitor make a flask of tea and leave with you so at least you can have a cuppa after they’Ve left? It’s surprising how resourceful we have to be! Take care and hope you’re not in too much pain. Hugs. Xx

 

chocolate cheese cake? X

 

Hi B, I'm so glad to hear that your op went well and you're home again. Take care and rest as much as you can before OH comes home.....you need to be well yourself in order to be able to look after him x

 

Bless you both. I know how my heart ached when mine was in hospital.
It is always worse in the small hours too. It seems good that the phone and texts are going well.
This means he will feel connected.
I hope you continue to improve and look after yourself, it really is a tough time fior you.


Love A. X

 

I can really relate to this, I too want my lovely husband back, I want my life back, my heart is breaking and each day is so challenging and don't know if I have the strength and the patience to go on. I've no family and only a few friends who I don't want to burden with my problems. My husband refuses to see a doctor. So I'm alone. I'm alone even when I'm with my husband. Coping is overwhelming.
How do we reach this point in our lives, how do we get normality, hope do we save our husband's and ourselves. I hope you have someone who can care for you and give you free time to recharge. XXXX

 

Hi B, it’s 6am and I hope you are sleeping soundly after being awake in the wee small hours. I want to say you are half way through and before you know it your husband will be back home with you but I know it won’t make any difference to how you feel right now. Glad you’re able to keep in touch with phone calls and texts.
If I was you I would step away from the duster - just for a day or two, dust has the horrible habit of coming back. Our place looks fine as long as the sun doesn’t come out then I see the windows, dusting etc needs some attention. It doesn’t bother me as it would have done not too long ago, it will get done - tomorrow!!
Take care and continue making a good recovery, I hope you can enjoy (not a good choice of a word but you know what I mean) even just short snatches of being on your own. It’s difficult I know but it’s ok to allow yourself to enjoy the rest. Thinking about you, sending love and hugs S xx

 

Hi @Francy, I just want to say hello and please believe there are many people on here that will understand how you feel, support you and hopefully make you feel you are not so alone. Maybe you have already done it but in the early days of knowing there was something wrong with my husband I went to see the GP alone which was some help until he finally agreed to go. I know that feeling of being overwhelmed by it all and the heartbreak being a truly physical as well as emotional feeling. Are you sure one of your friends wouldn’t welcome you leaning on them for some support, even just a cuppa and a chat to share some of your worries. Take care xx

 

Good advice, Manc, I quoted Quentin Crisp to my Granddaughter, whose seven year old is having aggressive chemo. 'Dust gets so high then it falls off'. We laughed but I also know that well I am unwell, a speck can look like a boulder. There is something to be said for net curtains!

 

Hello @Francy, welcome to the forum from me too. I spotted that you'd posted in this thread and see that you are having a difficult time. I wondered if you have thought about starting your own discussion as you may receive more responses from other members, and also be able to use the discussion to share other information and keep other members updated on how things are going.

To start your own discussion:

1. Find a forum that is relevant for you [e.g. https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/forums/i-have-a-partner-with-dementia.69/ ]

2. At the top, you'll see a button called 'Post New Thread' - click or tap on this.

3. Add a discussion title and below, add your message. Then click or tap the [Submit thread] OR [Create Thread] button.

I hope this helps.

Pete

 

Hi B, not expecting a reply, just want you to know I’m thinking about you and hoping your recovery is going well. Xx S xx

@AliceA loved the quote re dust and agree about nets but think I will have to pull my finger out and get the windows cleaned. Another one of those jobs I always left to my husband. We live in a bungalow and didn’t bother with a window cleaner but must now look for one I think. I’m so sorry to hear about your g.grandaughter and wish her all the best wishes in the world.

Love and best wishes to all S xxx