25 years ago I tried to obtain help advice anything concerning autism for my son to no avail, a few years down the line with my second son with learning difficulties I faced the same results , yes life was very hard bringing up 2 boys with problems and left to my own devices. Last year my 21 year old daughter suddenley went blind with all 3 adults at home life was becoming a nightmare but again even with me undergoing 3 back surgeries and my husbands medical history we have coped. Now the nightmare is here to stay, in the last few weeks my husband has been diagnosed with AD seemingly having had it for years I have been aware that discretly my husband has been suffering and because of previous commitments I just did not pay attention for this I feel beyond guilty. I have absolutely no idea what to expect although because I have coped and had all the answers in the past my husband is convinced I can answer his constantly repeated million questions, In the very limited time to myself I have found this site which seems very informative (if I had the time to read) but the one thing I did pick up on is (taking care of the carer take care of yourself) the question I have is WHEN?. To top it off being a novice to computers for obvious reasons it took me 2 hours the past 2 evening to post this message. Is there anyone out there who is full of remorse for wanting a little time alone? Now I have had a whine I better get back to work.