Another ok visit with mum today, she was waiting for us when we arrived and was pleased to see us and recognised us again.
Mum didn't have her cardi on today so I could see her arms which are terribly thin and the skin is loose on but her bruises from last fall couple of weeks ago have gone now and it doesn't look like she has any from this weeks fall, on her arms at least. Mum told us her bruises had gone and held her arms out to show us and also told us her arms were skinny. I told her that's cos she's not eating and told her to eat and then she'd fatten up and she wouldn't be as wobbly. Mum said I am wobbly. Bless her she knows she's skinny and wobbly and not eating. I told her we'd brought another sandwich and more goodys today and she said thank you. Later on we joked about how I buy goodys for her and am tempted to buy us some to so hubby and I are eating chocolate at home too and Mum said it'd fatten us up. I said I didn't need to fatten up so mum said Give them to hubby and we said he didn't need fattening up either and joked we'd look like father christmas with his big tummy soon. I also told her to fatten up so when I could go in to see her I could give her a hug and not hurt her.
Mum had asked us if we were coming in and asked carer if she could let us in when we first arrived and carer and us said we couldn't but we'd chat through window. I made mum laugh by crouching down to her height as she was sat in chair and I was bobbing up and down saying I'd invented a new exercise.
I noticed mums lips were a bit red especially top one and mum said it was bit sore, I asked if she'd been licking or sucking it and mum said yeah cos it was dry. I said You could do with putting some lipsyl on. Mum said Oh I could have got one in boots, I didn't never thought of it. Not sure when last time mum went to boots was ?
I thought maybe she might have one in the handbag she has there and mum said She'd not thought to look. I'm not sure if she had one in bag or not and when thought about it I doubt she'd remember to look after visit was over and if if started looking for it she'd probably forget half way through what she was looking for as that's what she did at home bless her, so I told mum I'd drop her one off later.
Mum asked what we were doing today and when I said going for our shopping, like last week mum asked if we were getting her some shopping and told me to make sure I got some money out to pay for it so I just agreed. She asked if I'd heard owt about her coming home so I said no, and mum said she hadn't either and said she wondered if they not telling her. I just shrugged and changed subject and she was fine with it.
She told us bit later she hadn't seen her brothers for a while and didn't know whereabouts they were, but she said it in a way that sounded like she thought they were there with her just not nearby now.
Mum asked would she see me tomorrow and I said I didn't think so, she said When will I see you next? I said I'll keep coming on Saturday every week like this till I can come in and see you more, she seemed happy with that and said ok. Mum said it was a shame people couldn't see other people and there was nothing for people to do. We agreed and said hopefully it'd be over soon.
She asked if I'd seen O (her boss at job she got after her and dad split up) I said No. Mum said He's supposed to be on holiday but he's been gone 4 months and that's not like him he's normally not good just being two feet away from work. I said Maybe he's retired. Mum said Nobodys seen him, maybe its because I'm not there. I said Maybe they've given it up now their star worker you isn't there. Mum smiled and laughed at that and moved on to asking hubby if he was still working and chatted about him working from home.
I showed mum a few more photos of her great grandson on my phone and told her I'd printed the ones I'd shown her last week and put them in her goody bag and she was happy with that. She looked a bit confused at one point when chatting about him looking tall on one of pics and I said its surprising as - and - (his mum and dad) are both small. I used their names and mum looked puzzled who I meant,sometimes mum forgets whose baby he is so I explained Our - and her husband -, his mum and dad, are both small aren't they. Mum caught on then and agreed Our - has always been short.
The walking lady was up and down corridor again today and came and asked mum a few times if she was ok and once pointed at hubby and I and asked mum if we were together and were we ok so mum told her we were. A carer was passing one time and so she said Shall we go this way - and took her hand, walking lady said What about her? (mum) so carer said She's having a visit so she'll come later and walked with her down corridor. If they're passing while she's walking or if see her hanging around door while we're visiting they will come and offer her their hand and walk off with her. All the staff I've seen there even though it's only in passing are really nice and friendly and gentle with the people there which does make me feel a bit better about mum being there. The last time walking lady came and asked mum if she was ok after she'd walked away Mum said She's no idea what's she's doing she's a bit mental and gets on my nerves a bit and rolled her eyes and smiled. Mum was nice to her when she spoke to her though. Last week mum had told us she felt sorry for her and given us a tale how she had nothign and her mum and dad took all her money but she didn't mention that this week.
A minute later after mum told us walking lady was bit mental there was a noise like an alarm or something but quite quiet and mum looked over her shoulder and pointed in direction of some doors to a room, I think dining room, there was someone sat just inside the doors and mum said That'll set her off, she'll start squealing and screeching soon she does this, Mum did a little screechy noise like this person apparently makes and then mum said It gets on yer nerves, I told em she's doing my head in. Then rolled her eyes again and laughed so hubby and I did too.
We had a few laughs and chatted a bit about odd little bits and bobs and mum seemed in quite a good mood, even her moaning was done gently and with a smile or laugh, but we were only there about 15 minutes today. Mum mentioned going after about ten minutes but I said we'd no need to go yet we'd come to see her and were happy to stay longer so we chatted a bit more but then she said it again after another five minutes and said it was nearly time for lunch and stood up. I thought better to leave while she's still happy rather than keep asking her to stay so I said Okay and asked her to get someone to buzz us out. Hubby and I thought mum stood up a bit easier this week than last week where she struggled and barely had strength. Mum went out in corridor but couldn't see anyone so I said It's ok we'll chat a bit longer till someone comes, but then a carer came by and Mum said can you let them out. So carer came and asked if we were going now and said she'd buzz us out so we said bye and love you lots to mum and blew each other a kiss and waved bye as we left.
I think us standing outside in coats makes mum think we're on our way somewhere, or she's keeping us. Unfortunately we can't not wear coats at minute as its freezing, or have chairs as really not room for them on our side of entrance door and I think it's more the being outside and not coming in that makes things feel like just passing and not stopping, plus mum can't concentrate for very long. Its a shame the visits are so quick but at least she was happy to see us and in quite a good mood.
While we were out collecting our shopping and things after seeing mum we got mum a lipsyl and called back at care home for me to drop it off for her. After we got home I thought I might have forgotten to tell carer who answered buzzer and took lipsyl off me who it was for. ?♀️ I'm hoping she'll figure it out. ?When I pressed buzzer I just said can I drop something off for my mum and when I handed her it I said Its just a lipsyl cos I noticed mums lips were dry when I visited this morning and I told her I'd drop her one off. She said thanks and she'd pass it on and then we said bye and she buzzed to let me out and she said thanks and bye over buzzer too. She didn't ask me who it was for so I'm hoping she knows.
I normally say who I'm bringing things for and put mums name on things but cos I'd just bought the lipsyl I hadn't wrote name on and am pretty sure I didn't say mums name this time. Carer didn't ask me who it was for so I'm hoping either she knew cos she has seen me with mum before, or if she doesn't she might be able to work out who my mum is cos she knows all other residents relatives, or knows who had visitors this morning. I've not been inside the care home yet and mums not been there that long but most of the other residents have so she'd probably be used to them and I have dropped things off for mum most weeks since mum's been there and am pretty sure I've seen this carer before, maybe even this morning as a few walked by while we visited and waved or smiled at us. I did think of ringing and saying I'd dropped it off and who it was for in case they didn't know but I think she'll have figured it out. I'm a wally though, fancy not saying
Early signs I'm following mum with alzheimers, menopause moments, or just a dippy doris ?
