I am sure it will all become clear but if it was the other way round you'd be like me, worrying about when dad gets too bad for his home. He's physically better than most of the others but mentally obviously not as good.
I also thought dad was almost not bad enough to be in the home but as it was a safe place I thought I'd see how it went and he has declined quite rapidly and is definitely in the right place. In some ways it's better to overegg it so as to be prepared with dementia unfortunately.
Your mum has some traits - those very lucid moments when she knows she's forgetting or when she realises what people are trying to do - that I think may make people think she's more together than she is really, but her same attitude was what got her into trouble and wandering so clearly she needs to be kept safe.
There's always something to worry about but I think this will probably be like the time I was worried about dad's care assessment worried that he might be told he was fine and should go home but then he was awarded the highest level of care. Sounds silly now eh?! But that was from a throwaway comment one of the carers made as well.
I also thought dad was almost not bad enough to be in the home but as it was a safe place I thought I'd see how it went and he has declined quite rapidly and is definitely in the right place. In some ways it's better to overegg it so as to be prepared with dementia unfortunately.
Your mum has some traits - those very lucid moments when she knows she's forgetting or when she realises what people are trying to do - that I think may make people think she's more together than she is really, but her same attitude was what got her into trouble and wandering so clearly she needs to be kept safe.
There's always something to worry about but I think this will probably be like the time I was worried about dad's care assessment worried that he might be told he was fine and should go home but then he was awarded the highest level of care. Sounds silly now eh?! But that was from a throwaway comment one of the carers made as well.