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@DianeW @canary xx
I feel quite lost at moment and not sure what to do with myself, it all feels very odd and I don't feel like doing much cos keep thinking about mum and feel bad when I do do things cos mum can't do what she wants and I feel a bit like I shouldn't either, a bit like I put her there so I could get on and do things for me. I know really I didn't put her there but I do feel at times like I'm benefiting and feel guilty.
My sister rang the CH this morning to see how mum is and he said Mum is well liked, he liked spending time with her cos she makes him laugh. He might say that to everybody but it made us feel a bit proud of mum and pleased could see her nice side and personality. He said she was settling better, still saying she needs to go home and to look after her children but more easily distracted which made us feel a bit better too. My sister asked if she had got her DVDs and things now and he said he was sure she had everything, the DVDs had been in bag in office and weren't now so he would go check and ask if she wanted one on while he was there. He said it will be nice when she moves room next week and can mix. SS haven't been in touch yet but they'll let us know when they have been and we can ring anytime, better after 10, they appreciate how worried we are and how weird it feels especially at this stage. Which sis and I appreciated.
I got the paperwork from them this lunchtime to sign and send back as mums representative. There is a residency agreement and a form for a personal allowance contract, for optional extras that care costs don't cover. The residency agreement at minute is for short stay with NHS funding, I assume when assessment is finished if/when they say mum needs permanent care they'll amend or re do it. I've had read through and sent it my sister to look at too and all looks fine and happy to sign.
It has given us couple of questions though which I wondered if anyone on forum who is LA funded knows about. My mum will be LA funded and at moment her pension/benefits are paid directly into her bank account, we know when/if she is in CH permanently that most of her benefits will go to pay for her care and she will only get a small personal allowance but we wondered how that's done. Will it still be paid into her bank account, or will the CH be given the personal allowance and in turn give it to mum?
At the moment my sister and I don't have LPA for mum, we're thinking we'll apply for deputyship once needs assessment for mum is done if it says mum hasn't got capacity, but at moment we don't have anything legal in place to access her finances, in the past mum gave me and my husband verbal permission to draw out money for her and pay her bills etc and I'm appointee for her benefits with DWP, but if her personal allowance is paid into her bank account we won't really be allowed to access it until we apply and if we get deputyship.
Also there is a form for a personal allowance contract they sent for optional extras the care costs don't cover which it says most residents find it convenient for the home to pay for them on their behalf out of their individual cash float held by the home to avoid them holding too much cash themselves/in their rooms. We can choose which things on list we want to include if we want to do that. If we do they ask for an initial deposit and then give a receipt and after that keep a record of money going in and out which can ask for at any time. The options are hairdressers, private chiropody, confectionery, toiletries, newspapers, outings, tobacco, visiting retailers, clothing, entertainment and anything else which I ask for.
I wondered if this would be a good idea so mum and them doesn't have to worry about her remembering to pay right amount when she uses those services or if it was better for her to pay herself?
Also I wondered if that means that each weeks personal allowance will go straight into her float automatic rather than physically going to mum at all?