Not a good day yesterday Mum was confused from the off, on phone with sis in morning. Then didn't want to come to ours and wanted to be on her own, thinking about her mum cos she'd died. Didn't want any lunch, not in mood to eat. Had some work to do, it'd give her something to do, didn't want me to stay and help, didn't want company just wanted to be on own. She made us a cup of tea but rushed us to finish and go. Gentle persuasion didn't work so about 1.20 we left. We had a click and collect between 2 and 4 so thought we'd go home for lunch and go later to collect it and I'd go back to mums for afternoon.
Mum rang at 1.50 while I was making lunch. Asked where I was, if W(my dad) was with me, thought he'd been with me. I told her No, hubby and I had been at her house and left when she told us to and were at our house now. She asked if we'd got home ok and then again if W was with us. I said no again. Mum said Ok sorry love I'm confused. I said yeah I think a bit. Mum said Ok I'll see you later and then mum said Sorry for thinking W with you. I said it's ok. Mum said I'll see you later love She was confused but sounded ok so hubby and I said we'd have an hour at home then go back out
Mum rang again about 45 minutes later very confused. Asking where she lived, was she in right house, did she live there or did W, did we all live there, where's her stuff, where was the other house we'd been living in. I answered simply as could. Then mum asked if she'd see me sometime so I said I'd go back over and see her later when we picked shopping up . She said I think 'friend' and her hubby were here this morning and sounded annoyed at it so I told her it was me and my hubby there this morning and mum said Oh good cos I don't want to see them two! Went back to more where's her stuff, her wardrobes and clothes? I said there so she went to check and said oh yes, I know this is my house cos its got pink walls but W was living here wasn't he? I said No. Mum said Its confusing. I said I know try not to think about it too much it'll just mix you up more, try to think I'm ok, it dun't matter now and it'll come back to you later. Mum said I will love, sorry for pestering you asking questions. I said It's ok, then mum said I know this is my house thats my, and reeled off half stuff in house then said,But I thought W had been living here. I said he hadn't it was her house that's why her stuffs there. She said she'd have to pick up rest of stuff and I said she'd took everything she wanted when she moved in. Mum said ok and I changed subject to lunch and shopping and hung up with her sounding better.
I rang on way to supermarket and said be bout half hour, she sounded fine and jolly but when we turned up at hers she was sat with telephone and address book on her knee looking panicky and said I can't find where I live I'm trying to find how to get home. I told her she is home and this is her house. She said Oh, then, Are you my Andrea? I said I Yes. Mum said But this is where W lives. I told her It's not it's your house. Mum said But he was here. I said Well he's not now so don't worry. Hubby and I took mums shopping in kitchen, washed hands, I could hear mum talking so went in room, mum had front door open. I said What you doing mum? I'm looking which way I go home. I said You are home, come back inside. Are you sure? I said Yes. She came back in.
We did shopping, hubby went home and I stayed.We talked a bit but it was mostly confused. She might need food for her brother unless he has it somewhere else, maybe at his home. Other stuff as if brothers lived with her. Said I think I saw W here today but he didn't stay I think he were just coming to get somert he dint even talk to me stupid ******. Asked if I was ok with hubby, then she said I haven't seen our Andie or -(sis) today, well I maybe saw our andie earlier I'm not sure. Most of the afternoon was mixed up bits and not seen me or sis.
Then got stuck on Has our Andrea gone out? where's she gone? She went off somewhere yesterday too. Just before 6 I suggested having dinner, Mum said she wasn't bothered but I said I was hungry and talked bout what to have and went in kitchen to put it on. Mum said Where's our Andie? I'm going to look for her and got up, I went in room and said I'm here. Mum said You're not, I'm going out to find her. She went to front door. I said Where are you going mum I'm here. She said No you're not I'm going to find our Andie. I said Come back in, NO! She went out to front gate. She was looking up and down street, I panicked a bit, I kept saying she's not out there, come back in, lets have dinner, she'll be back later. Mum kept saying No. I said Mum will you come in she's not out here. Mum snapped SHUT UP! She reached for gate latch as she turned to look over her shoulder at me and said I'm going to look for her. Then she let go of gate and started walking across garden and I heard neighbour say hello. Mum said I've lost my daughter, well I've not lost her I want her to come have some tea so I'm looking for her. Mums neighbour s looked a bit stunned and said Oh, I said It's ok, Come in mum lets go make dinner. Mum said bye and came back, neighbour said bye. Bet she wondered what was happening.
Mum came in and opened back door, I asked What're you doing? Mum said I'm looking for our Andie I want her to come and have some tea. I said She's at home she'll be having her tea at her own house. Mum said This is her home she should be here. I told mum Andrea was grown up now, married, had her own house, she didn't live here now. Mum didn't believe that. I said How old is Andrea? Mum said A teenager. I said You're 73 you wouldn't have a teenage daughter, Andrea is 48,has her own house, you've got wedding photo on wall in room. Mum said I thought she was a teenager. I said She's all grown up now. Mum went in room, I put dinner on. I started talking about Jane Mcdonald starting as mum loves that. Mum sat arms folded, foot tapping grumpy, I kept trying, she eventually answered. While I was checking dinner mum said Well she isn't going to have any then is she. I said no she'll be having some dinner at her own home.
After dinner mum said I wonder where our Andrea is? I said She's married now she'll be at her own home. Wonder where she is though I bet she int at home I bet she's at someone elses house. I said again She's married and will be at home. Yeah but she's not here, unless she's up at home, but I can't remember where it is where we live but she must be there cos she's not here is she. I said No cos she's married and doesn't live here with you anymore she has her own house. Mum growled and said Yes but where is she she isn't here. She asked where Our Andrea lived, I told her , mum said She can't have gone home cos it's a long way and she couldn't have walked. I said She'd have got bus or hubby will have picked her up. Mum said Well she won't know way back from here she ant lived here, well she did as a kid but not for ages, she won't know way. I said If she found her way here she'll know way back, she'll be fine. Mum got her address book looking through it. I kept trying to distract her talking about tv, after bit she put book down
About 7.30 mum washed up and watered plants, then back to, Where is our bloody andrea. She got keys, I asked What you doing, mum said Going to look for her. I asked Where you going to look, mum said Out on street. I said She's not out there she's at home. Mum said Well she was playing next door but one earlier. I said Andrea is grown up now mum she's married. Mum growled again, but sat down fiddling with keys. Mum said She was here earlier and wouldn't have gone without telling me. I said Maybe she did, maybe you were in garden doing washing and you didn't hear her. Mum got her address book again and kept saying She wouldn't have gone without saying bye, or She doesn't know way home. I kept trying to answer.
The it switched to Where is he? I said Who? Mum said One of the lads, Mum thought one of my sisters sons had been with her when she came here this morning I said I didn't know and hadn't seen them, then it switched to this afternoon, I said not seen them they were probably at home where lived. Short pause then onto I can't believe our Andrea married - (hubby) he's too old for her. I think she'd got my hubby and 'friends' hubby mixed up, she often does. I kept trying to chat to her and she would for a minute but then she'd go back to address book.
10 minutes later hubby arrived. I was worried about leaving mums at usual 7 in case went looking for me, door sensor doesn't start till 9 so I'd told hubby to come for me about 8.40 so we could leave about 8.50 to give mum time to lock up without setting it off. I got hubby to turn round on next road and I went and stood at the end of mums road for 10 minutes till after 9 just in case she came back out.
We had 7 missed calls when we got in, I rang back. Mum said When I didn't answer she thought me, my sister, and others had gone down to pub (one dad used to go to) I said No I'm at home. I fibbed and said I'd been in garden. Mum said she thought sis was here, thought she'd talked to her earlier. I said she'd rung earlier it was probably that. Mum agreed, said See you tomorrow, I'm at my house, well it was mine and W's but its mine now I said Yeah I know where you mean. Mum said I thought I'd give it a go. I might be bit scared in bed though cos theres a light goes off on end. I said it's probably a cat we have one round here sets them off and mum said Yes it is . Ok see you tomorrow night love. She sounded fine, confused but fine.
I was on edge all night, I was worried mum was going to go out looking for me and get lost. If she hadn't spotted neighbour at dinnertime I'd have been following her down road cos she wouldn't come in when I asked. Plus I realised I'd not given her galantamine, I wasn't there at lunch and at dinner I forgot. We were in middle of where's our Andrea, but I'm mad at myself