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@Woo2 @Sarasa xx Yesterday wasn't too bad, carer came in afternoon so I got an afternoon to do my ironing and there were no calls last night. Today's not started great though,as mums not gone to day centre.
I rang mum just after 7 to get her up ready for day centre and she said I'm not going. She didn't want to go, didn't know them, was ok at home on her own, hadn't said she's bored or lonely, hadn't like it before. No amount of bright and breezy you like it, or they're expecting you worked so I said Ok mum and she hung up.
I gave it quarter of an hour and rang to try again. Sometimes mum will say she's not going to DRs or something but be getting ready while saying it so I thought I'd ring again and check before ringing DC to cancel. She hadn't changed her mind, sounded quiet and like she was still in bed. I was still trying to be bright and breezy and positive about it but mum said she wasn't going, she was scared to go out, I told her she didn't need to be, it wan't proper going out they would pick her up in their mini bus and take her straight there, but Mum said No, she wasn't going, she didn't want to go out she wanted to just stay in her house and garden. I tried again to say it would be nice and she enjoyed it, but still no. Then tried the they're expecting you cos last week said you'd go and you can't just not turn up, but she just said She wasn't going. I said I'll have to ring to cancel them then cos they think you're going and sending bus and Mum said Sorry but I'm not going. I was getting nowhere so I said Ok then. I was just saying I'll see you later when she hung up.
I rang DC and left message saying Mums not going and could they cancel transport, manager will probably ring later to ask about it as they have to send a reason why mum didn't go to social services as it was arranged through them and she'll probably ask if think mum will go another time. She might even say she'll have to give place to someone else as at moment they're only having a few people at a time and only open 3 days and somebody else who wants to go could go instead of mum.
So not the best start to the day. Hubby and I got up early as we were going to go over to help her get ready to go to DC and give her tablets before she went like I used to before, but as she's not going there's no need to go early now, I'll just go for half ten like usual. So instead of the extra hour I should have been in bed I've bleached my kitchen sink, wiped all my kitchen cupboard doors down and moved everything off worktops to give them a thorough wipe over as I don't do that much nowadays and had planned to come back and do some cleaning while mum was at DC today.