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We will go on Monday for images, all being well if can get mum out of door and into hospital and then see what consultant says week after. Hubby suggested if consultant says mum can have op to ask for time to consider rather than agree on day so we can see what we can do about recovery period and see how often mum changes mind and if she's likely to have op if agrees. I really don't think if op is only option she will cope with recovery even in respite or with nursing care, she'd probably let them do drops but would very likely resist posturing laying face down part and get up rather than posture for long. She'd forget why doing it after few minutes. But I sort of feel have to see what they say at least. Hubby and I are dreading it though as will no doubt be stressful and its half four right in sundowning time. They only offered afternoon appointments though so would be same whatever day.
Gps surgery rang today to ask mum to go in for blood pressure check which we arranged for friday morning. So another trip out in public with our masks, but least thats not far and know it. I don't really like going out and being in contact with people if can avoid it. When GPs rang mum answered as I was making dinner in kitchen. I could hear mum talking so went into room and could hear a bit of what other person was saying as mum had it on speaker phone. She said she was receptionist from ---- surgery, your doctors, Mum had no idea what receptionist was saying bless her, mum asked her twice before she gave me phone. I said I'm her daughter can you speak to me and she said yes, who she was and why ringing. When she was telling me what to do at surgery she said she'll need to wear a mask or face covering and so will you if you come with her if she needs help and I said I would be coming with her and she said thats fine. I didn't have to explain why or anything. Mum asked what it was about when I put phone back so I just said You've just to pop into doctors for blood a pressure check. Mum asked when and I said friday. mum said I don't know where it is so I said I know and I'll take you and mum just said Ok. She didn't really react much so unless she asks again I won't mention it till friday morning now.
Chemist text on thursday to say mums prescription for her new dose of sertraline was ready so we have that now which is a relief. I've been using tablets had extra from last increase to give her new dose since monday but today was last 2 x 100mg I had, so I'm glad it's come ready for tomorrow. I couldn't get hold of MC worker yesterday again and as chemist had text to say they had prescription I didn't bother talking to anyone else cos I thought I'd wait to speak to normal person who dealt with mum. She'll ring to see how mum is on new dose like she did for last increase so I can talk to her then. Mum has seemed happier last couple of days and has said she's slept bit better although she said she's still going to bed late but she said thats cos of heat.
Mum had a good day yesterday although she did lose her shed keys late afternoon and carer rang me to see if I knew where might put them and what looked like, I don't think mums description of them was very good. I suggested few places but she'd looked there, she said she'd keep trying but it sounded like she was running out of places to look. She'd been cleaning bathroom with mum and mum had popped out to shed for mop and bucket without carer knowing and after they'd finished bathroom mum wanted put mop back and couldn't find keys. Its something mum does often. Carer apologised, though it wasn't her fault, she said she hadn't noticed mum go out or she would have watched her and what she did but she hadn't known mum was going out. I said I'd go over after my dinner which I was just making and look, if mum was nattering about it to tell mum I would come over soon and help find them. Carer said mum was ok she didn't seem too worried but I said I'd still pop over cos mum might decide to look for them later. Carer said she'd ring me and let me know if found them before she left and about 1/4 hour later she rang to say they had, which was a relief so I didn't go over.
I was helping hubby in garden before and after dinner and we were just getting ready to pack up and go inside when mum rang at 20 past 8. She said she'd done somert daft and then set off on some story about how she'd gone to this house this morning and put some washing out and never thought anything of it and then she'd come in this afternoon and W (my dad) had been there but he left when she came in, she didn't know where he went but she stayed there and she dint know where she was but she'd just realised this was her other house. She said She'd just come and let herself in earlier but it wasn't where she lived with W so she was wondering why was she here. Then she'd said I've just been looking at fireplace and thought thats mine and those vases are mine so I realised this is my other house, I don't know what W was doing here cos its not where we live together but he must have known about this house.
She thought it was funny she'd thought she was in wrong house and said aren't I daft I'd forgot it was my house this. We were on phone a good 10 minutes while she asked where house was she lived with dad was and how long she had been here and things like that. She was surprised I had been over earlier and had also forgot carer had been when that came out in conversation and that she hadn't lived with my dad for years. She asked why she thought she had and so I told her the usual about when her brain gets tired sometimes she gets mixed up and not to worry it would come back to her in morning and she seemed happy with that and after she told me our Andrea had put her a mesh screen on door today, (forgetting thats who she was talking to) she catted about weather and garden then she asked if would see me tomorrow and then we said night etc. .
Mum also had a good day today, she was polishing living room when I arrived which is rare nowadays. She said she went to bed late again but did get some sleep and seemed much calmer and happier even when she was confused which she still is, especially about about where she lives, who with, who I am and if people are dead etc,
She rang tonight about 20 to 10 asking if I'd been tying to ring her cos that thing with the lights on next to phone had gone off. (lifeline box) It said you'd been trying get hold of me, she rung me and said your daughter has been getting in touch. It was quite confusing to follow but from what I can gather mum had set door sensor off and lifeline box spoke to her to ask if ok and I think mum must have asked her something about who they were or why they were asking and I think they must have mentioned me, either asked if she wanted them to contact me or said I'd arranged them to check on her or suggested she ring me to ask about it. Mum had apparently decided to go out to water her plants, she'd suddenly remembered she'd not watered them today and it was still light so went to do it, they're mainly old ones from last year that have hung on, or weeds, that she waters occassionally. It had thrown it down a few times today with thunder storms so didn't need to them anyway but mum had forgot that.
She was confused but not too unsettled and I told her it was the box in room that is for the panic button in case she falls (that she doesn't wear), it came with door sensors for when they're opened at night and it just checks its her and asks her if ok in case needs help. They'd have probably said I arranged it and did she want them to ring me if needed help. mum said I told them you weren't here and I hadn't seen you. I thought I'd just ring you and see if you'd been ringing cos I didn't really get what she said. I said again It's just cos you opened door late at night they just want check you ok and would have asked if you wanted them ring me and so mum said Oh ok.
She went off of on a bit of a ramble about only being here three week and my dad putting box in for her so didn't have to pay phone bill but she didn't know where he was now. Then told me she had been thinking her mum had died at 50 but she wasn't sure and thought she ought to go check on her mum but there's no buses so how could she go. Then a few times she'd say she was going and then as we said bye she asked how me and hubby was, mentioned it was hot, asked if see me tomorrow and had she been to my house etc but she wasn't really upset and when she did say night after about ten minutes she sounded ok and happy about coming to ours tomorrow.
So mum has improved towards end of this week in mood and hopefully getting a bit more sleep, I hope it continues.