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@Mumslittlehelper62 @DianeW @Woo2 @Sarasa @TNJJ xxxxx That red riding hood sounds fun x I'll definately tell MC when ring next week about today. I've not started mum on new dose of sertraline yet as hubby rung pharmacy today and they've not received prescription yet. I don't know if MC was posting actual prescription to tesco like they did first few times, or if was sending it electronically like last time, but it's not there yet. I'll get in touch with MC if not come monday. I was wondering if to wait to start it anyway till spoke to MC next week as last few days since I talked to them mum has seemed better, but that was before today when she told me up till 5am and this afternoon when she rang me in tears.
At 5 to 4 this afternoon my mobile rung and mum was in tears. I asked if she is ok and mum said No because I never see you, or it could have been No cos I'll never see you, as I couldn't quite tell for the crying. Whichever one she said it started a very confusing conversation which the basic gist was mum had forgot I'd been and she'd sent me home because she wanted to be on her own and instead mum thought I was moving a long way away and wouldn't see her anymore and she is all alone.
She kept saying but you're moving and when I reassured her I wasn't she'd say someone is moving is it our Andrea? I asked her at one point who she had called and she stuttered her way through a few parts of peoples names and then said I don't know. She kept flitting about during conversation between who she thought I was, 'friend' me, a friend called Andrea, she didn't really know.
I'd tell her I had been this morning and was going to come back at dinner time anyway but would come back over now and she'd say sorry and then thank you and then straight after she'd say Will I still see you sometimes when you move? So I'd tell her again I'm not moving and I'll come see you now. She told me our Andrea was moving or somebody was, I told her nobody was and then she went back to me moving and told me I knew our Andrea had a house but I didn't know where it was and she didn't live in it but she's going to now. Although I don't know where she slept when she lived here, or if she did live here but she was here a lot. I told her I didn't live with her but went everyday and still would as I still live in same house lived in for 25 years and wasn't moving.
It was a very confusing conversation with lots of crying on mums part and lots of me trying to reassure her that I see her every day and still will cos I'm not moving and I had only come home cos she wanted be on her own cos she was feeling tired and yukky and I had intended to go back for dinner and we would come back over now to see her.
When we got to mums she said I'm sorry Andie and I'm sorry Hubby. She was quite subdued for first half hour we were there bless her even though we'd told her it didn't matter when she said sorry a few times. She said she hadn't known what she was doing and where I was, she thought I'd been there this afternoon and then wasn't and she also said she couldn't remember me going today at all.
I asked if she'd had a nap and she said no she'd been trying to do her puzzles at least she thought she had but wasn't really sure what she'd done. She didn't seem to know if her tummy was ok now either when we asked a bit later but then said she'd not been to loo so it must be. She couldn't remember if she'd had any lunch but there were crumbs on worktop in kitchen and pack of beef had been opened in fridge and there was a crisp packet and biscuit wrapper in bin (call me miss marple) She had washed up from this morning and lunch and she'd washed some towels that had been in kitchen earlier and put them on line.
I'd put some washing on airer in bathroom this morning but when I went to loo it wasn't there, mum had no idea where it was at first but then said she'd decided to put it out on line. She'd brought it in and put it in airing cupboard when it was dry. I think this is what she'd probably done before she'd got upset and confused over me visiting before she had rung me at 5 to 4.
Hubby and I have noticed that in an afternoon when she goes to loo or leaves room for a few minutes when she comes back she often either thinks I've just come and 'friend' has gone, or other way round. Also a few times she has gone outside and come back in and been mixed up while I've been there. A couple of times in last month or so she has rung me on an evening asking if my dad had been at her house and also a couple of times rang to ask if I have been, She has thought dad or us have been but then just left and not been sure about it so rung to ask. It happened after we'd gone home on an evening and mum had been out in garden to water plants and then she came back inside and been confused where people were and who had been and rang me confused, Its like leaving the room flips a switch and alters what she thinks.
Some days when she has been thinking I'm friend and she's gone out of room and then come back it's good as she realises it's me there not 'friend' but others it works the other way and when she's on her own and does it like today she has wondered where people are. I think she came in after bringing washing in and didn't know where I was and why she was on her own and that nasty dementia brain made up a reason that I was moving a long way away.
After we'd been there a while this afternoon she seemed to relax a bit and we chatted about tv which we'd put on not long after arriving. I made us some dinner later and gave her her galantamine and then we stayed for another hour and halfish till about 20 to 8. I brought her towels in off the line and locked back door so she didn't have to go out again after I left and we left her watching Jane Mcdonald cruising which she really enjoys. I told her we'd see her tomorrow and hopefully she'll be able to come to our house and mum said she hoped so cos she's not been out for ages. We'll have to wait and see what tomorrow brings as we just can't plan anything. Though to be honest plans haven't been very reliable for years because of mums tummy and then moods and memory.
Fingers crossed tomorrow is a better day and I hope she gets some sleep tonight. ?