No mention of last night from mum today so I didn't mention it either. I rang her a bit before we set off this morning to gauge how she was and she said she wasn't coming over as she had cold, her neck was aching and she had headache. She's been sounding snuffly and saying got cold on a morning again this week but it's usually gone a few hours after she gets up. Her neck ache, I think is mix of bad posture and bit of arthritis, she often mention it so I put her voltarol on it which helps, I have same thing, and I think the headache was probably due to feeling snuffly and maybe left over from being upset last night. She'd said same thing about cold and neck so wasn't going to come yesterday morning but then was feeling better not long after. I said she might feel better by time we came but we could stay at hers if she preffered but she said You stay at home love I'll manage on my own. I reminded her I have go give her tablets so she said Oh ok and asked if I was going home after done them. I said I would if she really wanted me to but I'd have to come back later for others so she said Oh I'll come to yours then, it'll give me something to do, but I've washed my hair so I'll need to dry it so don't come just yet. I told her it was ok I wasn't going for bout 3/4 of an hour as I was going prep potatoes and things for dinner before left and she was happy with that. I was very happy to hear she'd washed her hair as hasn't done it since last Saturday.
When we got there she'd got washer on and it still had 40 minutes on it, she'd put it on long wash she doesn't really like using but puts it on when she forgets. She was calling me 'friend' from arriving, we sat and waited for washer and mum was talking about how she loves colour of her living room wall. She told me Our Andie did it for me I think she chose it, she painted it for me as well, it was first time she'd decorated. Then she said she thought there was a patch on wall, she could only see it from a certain spot so I said it's probably a reflection and shadow from window behind her head, but mum said she thinks it's a patch that's not painted proper as Our Andie hasn't painted before.
She told us she's not seen our Andie for ages, then was asking if I knew if she was married or not. She'd already gave us the eye roll and Yeah whatever you say I don't believe you look when hubby had said something about me being Andie when we'd first arrived so I just said I've no idea when she asked us if Andie was married and mum said No me neither. When washer had done I helped put it on airer and we set off to our house.
When we first got to our house we all washed our hands as usual and mum was hanging about in kitchen looking a bit uncertain waiting for us when usually she's in hall putting slippers on and straight into room. I said You can go sit in room mum I'll be in in a minute and she said Oh ok love. She looked a bit uncertain and i thought she wasn't sure where she was when I went in room. Hubby put tv on and when I went to put lunch on he chatted a bit about flog it with her and she settled. She carried on calling me 'friend' but seemed happy to be here.
About 4 she put down her colouring and said she better go home. I asked why and as usual she said she had to go see her brother before he emptied her mums house. We explained house is all sorted so no need go but she had her usual questions which we answered about her mums house and where she lived, she got a bit upset at one point when she was talking about nannan and dad being dead a long time and living on her own and she said so I've got nobody then and I told her she had me and hubby, I see her everyday and she said Oh do you oh good. After about 15 minutes she settled down a bit and we convinced her that as she didn't need to go sort out anything she might as well stay here with us. But a while after she thought she had go again and when we tried explain again she said she'd go ask our Andrea. Then she was asking if I was our Andrea and if hubby and I were married etc and was confused when and if we'd married. After a bit of answering she was sort of believing us but wasn't quite settled so I asked if she wanted to see our Photo album and she did.
She enjoyed looking at it, she recognised photo she has at home and pointed at it and said thats our Andrea, that is you and said Oh and is that you? to hubby. Oh that's lovely. It was a lovely day. We had a nice chat about wedding and looked through rest of the photos. She mixed up some of the people on the photos, didn't recognise hubbys brother in law who she has met quite a lot over the years and thought one of hubbys grandmas was my nannan but she recognised rest. Then she was on about hubby coming to her house everyday when we were going out, she got some bits mixed up. She said we used to go in front room and she'd light fire for us, we didn't have a front room, that was her and my dad when they were courting. She said her mum liked hubby and thought we were a good couple, nannan never met hubby as she died just before I was 2 which was 15 years before hubby and I met, but I didn't say anything to mum.
We decided to have something to eat then for tea and watched some more tv and mum was ok. She did randomly pipe up after about half an hour When I went home from here yesterday afternoon he had 6 lads in. I said Who? Mum said Our (brother) he'd got 6 lads in house. I just said Oh and mum went back to watching tv and laughing at it.
She was ok after that till she was getting ready to go home, she had only brought a cloth bag with puzzle book knitting and colouring stuff in and her keys and hadn't worn a coat as was warm, but when we were getting ready to take her home she was asking where her purse was and then said I bet I left it at house and if our (brother) has them lads in again they might take it. I told her she'd left it at her house as she didn't need to bring it so it was fine. No I was at my mums before here and I took it there I think. I said No mum we picked you up at yours and it was there cos we talked about it but decided to leave it at home so its safe. Mum said Oh good but then still asked and looked for that and her handbag about 4 times before we left. She also tried to take my coat a few times despite me saying it was mine and she hadn't brought one and she asked a few times if we knew where she lived now and knew the way.
We'd had food shopping delivered at ours today and when we arrived at mums she went straight in and got her purse to pay for her shopping while hubby and I put it away so she had remembered her house and where purse was, she usually does when she arrives home thankfully. Hubby put tv on and we watched a bit of programme that was on and chatted about me going tomorrow then left about 20 past 7. Mum was fine but back to calling me 'friend' when we left hers.
My mobile rang just as I was unlocking our door about 15 minutes later. She said hello love have you been to my house today, I said yes I've just got home now from taking you home. Mum thought she'd been somewhere else and didn't know been with us, she asked was I sure and so I reminded her what we'd eaten and what we'd watched and we'd coloured. Mum said yeah and she was glad cos she liked spending time with us. I said I was glad cos we like spending time with her. She said she's sorry but she doesn't always know where she's been and with who now cos people don't say names but she was glad she'd been with us. She asked if would see me tomorrow and then we said our byes etc.
So an ok but confused day again about who I am and where she lives and other odd little bits during day, but luckily she didn't get upset really during today. I hope she's ok tonight and has a restful evening and good nights sleep ?
I'm definately going to tell memory clinic when rings on tuesday about last night and the other nights earlier in week she said was up late thinking.