Thanks for replies
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@CardiffGirlInEssex don't think I've ever been to wales, once stayed in a travelodge near wrexham and went into wrexham for a few hours which I think is wales but think that's as far as we got.
That's a good idea
@Woo2 to try GP see if anything can do to help your mum feel a bit better. Good luck I hope there is something GP can suggest X
I didn't have a great night last night, think maybe got a bit of pmt. Hubby and I were talking about his work and I annoyed him. And later he annoyed me, my sister had text me yesterday talking about ringing carer agency to see if could do extra visit or not at moment with mums tuesday carer off, so a bit later on I tried talking about extra carer day with hubby and he been grumpy which annoyed me so we were both in bit of a huff and quiet for rest of night.
When I went to bed I was dreaming about care homes and having weird unsettling dreams so woke up this morning feeling pants.
I was looking online at local care homes last night so that's probably why still on my mind when asleep. Only 2 had fees on show and they started around a thousand pound a week so don't think they'll be in the running. None of the rest gave indication of fees but most mentioned luxury or luxurious or high quality in description so think they may be ones for people with money to pay. One didn't have fees but when talking about fees in a download of questions it talked about self funders and then mentioned la funding and needing a third party to top up rest, so think they'll be out of running too. Looks like lots of emails to the others to ask if accept LA funded people.
Some of the things homes choose to put in their photo gallery seemed a bit pointless, one had about 3 different shots of a table with salt and pepper pots and vase of flowers on it and one had 2 different photos of man in minibus out side home. Not sure what that told me about the home environment, I'd rather see photos of actual rooms and layout.
In the leaflet/guide I downloaded from council website with list of care homes in there was an ad for a company with 2 homes in area with a web address but when I put in website address it gave website was just a black page and there was no other website came up when googled it. They are mentioned on care home sites but have very little detail on them and no photos so bit of an unknown which seem odd when they had gone to trouble to put ad in leaflet.
A few had facebook pages so I was looking through them but I didn't finish looking at those or reading reports on carehome and cqc site before bed so will look again later. I forwarded link to leaflet/guide to my sister the other day and she said she will look at it too when she can, so we'll talk about them and share info when we both get time. I think I'll probably end up starting all over again as I don't think I can remember much about them individually, they'd all blurred into one by bedtime
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I think my brain knows I don't want to be thinking and dealing with all this and so won't work properly. I hate making decisions for myself and agonise over them, but this isn't for me and I just don't feel capable and don't want to have to deal with it really to be honest. I know that's wimpy and I know that's not an option, I know that me letting things just go on and happen without planning is not good for mum, or us. I keep thinking I'll do it, I'll get myself together and get on with things, and I'll realise what needs doing and fight to do it and get on with it but so far I haven't. Just been a cowardy custard and moaned and worried about stuff. ?