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@Woo2 @canary @Starting on a journey @TNJJ @Sarasa @Bikerbeth xxxxxx this forum is amazingly supportive.
Luckily mum was ok with me today, so it's just poor sis who copped for it this morning. I was super bright and breezy on phone before we set of to mums and when we arrived too, you'd never think I'd been crying in the shower this morning and worried about going over for another upset agitated day. She was in good mood when we arrived this morning, though she seemed like she'd forgot coming to ours as she was sat watching friends with a cup of tea and a cake bar when we arrived and offered us a cup too, but she was pleased to be coming when hubby asked her. She'd been in shower today and washed her hair, though she did have a pair of trousers on I think she has worn 3 times already since last washed them but I didn't say anything.
She really enjoyed her lunch and watching location location location on tv. She kept telling hubby and I about the couples on it and what they wanted, but she kept mixing them up and some of the things she said about them were funny but not meant to be, so I had to avoid looking at hubby as I know he'd make me laugh. After it finished mum said shall we colour now Andie.
About 2 o'clock she piped up Was I at my mums? I said When this morning? Mum said Yes. I said No you were at your house. She was quiet for few minutes then said I keep thinking I have two houses, have I? I said No just one, then when I could see she was thinking about it I joked Yer not rockerfella yer know. Mum laughed and said I don't want two anyway.
Ten minutes later she asked if my sister had got a boyfriend I said Yes and his name and mum said Oh yes they're going to live in >>> (where sis has lived for years, but mum thinks they're moving) and Our Andies got a house too. I mm-ed and thought I mustn't be our Andie again.
Five mins later mum asked where her and my dad lived and when I told where they'd lived years ago she said Oh yeah. Can I go to your loo 'friend' So there I was gone and 'friend' had took my place again. As we walked out of room she pointed at photo of me and hubby at my nieces wedding a few years ago and mum said I love that photo, I've got it at home too 'friend'
At 3 o'clock mum said I ought to go home cos our (her brother) will have all his mates in, or our (other brother) will be bloody pinching everything. She was still colouring so I didn't say anything. Few minutes later she said You might not know, but what will I need to do 'friend' cos I've got nowt that says my name on it. I told her all her documents and paperwork were here in her folder cos she'd asked me to look after them a while ago. Mum said Oh good cos I'm not even sure where I live.
By 1/4 past 3 she was back to needing to go home cos needed to sort out her mums house and get her stuff, she packed up her pencils and got her bag etc together on her knee and sat on edge of settee ready to go. I told her she didn't need to go cos nannans house was sorted a long time ago and she had all her stuff and she didn't have anything anywhere else. She asked what happened to nannans house, was it long time ago would someone else be living there now. We told her that her and brothers emptied it and gave keys back to council a long time ago and there's probably someone living in it for years. She accepted it quite easily but said Well I'll still go home then to my house. Hubby said You can if you want but you don't need to go, you can stay here if you want. I said There's no need to rush off is there cos you've nothing needs sorting now mum, you know its all been done so you could stay here with us a bit longer if you like. Mum said Oh ok then I'll do some more colouring.
She ended up staying till about 1/4 to 7 although we did have quite a few questions and mixed up statements till then, Where do I live, do you know where it is, will you come with me when I go, I don't think I've been there for ages. Are you sure I've not got any furniture anywhere else. I bet our (brother) took my bed, bet he took my tele, bet he sold all my stuff, and why was our (brother) in house if it was sorted years ago. Also where is my house, is it near town, is it near H and J well they said they're going to move, if they're staying then I think I will. And there was quite a bit of talk about her having been to look at a flat and not knowing if to take it or stay in bungalow, had she told council she'd take flat and now needed to tell them she wasn't, was bungalow dearer than flat, would they still pay her rent. I don't know where idea 2 of her neighbours are thinking of moving came from because she hasn't spoke to them for ages but she's also said other day that they lived near her house with dad and if she moved back to her bungalow she wouldn't know anyone. I don't know if idea of her looking at a flat came from location on tele earlier as one of couples was looking at flats, or if cos before moving to her bungalow 13 years ago she did consider a flat but she was sure it was recent. Hubby and I answered her questions and did a lot of mm-ing during the mixed up statements about brothers taking her stuff, neighbours moving and flat talk. She didn't seem to get too upset during her questioning and being mixed up today thankfully.
It's been a better day today, though still not relaxing as we're constantly on edge wondering what she's going to say/ask next and if she'll be ok with answer or get upset or angry, and wondering when she's going to want to go home and if she'll stay this time or if she'll insist we take her home and wondering how she'll be when we get there but it has been better and I'm grateful for that.