Things took a bit of a confusing turn for mum this afternoon, she started asking again if she needed to go into council to tell them where living. Its something she says often as she thinks she only just went back to the house she lives in after being back with my dad. She was all mixed up thinking she had only moved back 2 & 1/2 months ago and dad had took all her furniture from their house and moved in with his brother in his parents old house and then he'd died. She has thought this before but its not true. Today she came out with a whole made up story about when they split up again after getting back together and dad saying he was going to live with woman he actually did live with for years before he died, her being taken away, she actually went into a home, and then him living with his brother before he died. There was a lot of detail in her story but it was so wrong and hadn't happened anything like that. She asked if it was true and kept saying oh dear I can't remember things, I didn't know this how can I not know. She was a bit upset that she didn't remember things but I tried my best to reassure her and distract her back on to the colouring we were doing while chatting and watching tv like we'd been doing earlier.
She was ok for a while but then looked a bit fidgety and unsettled again and when I asked what was wrong she said she was just thinking about Our Andie, she said I don't know why she doesn't come and see me cos I haven't done anything to her and started talking about Our Andie as if it wasn't me again.
She was a bit snuffly and sniffy again for a little while this afternoon and with being confused too she seemed a bit fed up and sad for a while. The snuffly sniffyness went off after a little while but she still seemed a bit mixed up. When hubby came at dinner time she seemed ok with us and I wasn't sure if knew who I was or not but she had started calling me Andie before I left.
When I got home tonight she rang and asked me to come see her, I thought she meant then so I asked what the matter was and she said nothing I just want to see you I miss you. She didn't know it was me who had been today she thought it was someone else. Then she told me my dad had just died and asked if I knew. We were on phone for about 1/4 of an hour and she got quite upset about not knowing I'd been, how long she'd lived in her house, how long dad had been dead, when they'd split up. She kept asking questions and saying oh I'm sorry I didn't know, that my memory is no good, or I'm confused. She said she was so pleased I'd been to see her cos she missed me. She kept asking if i had my own house with hubby and if I was ok and happy and saying oh I am glad because I love you. She was quite teary sounding and kept saying she was sorry she didn't know it was me who went everyday.
I didn't know what to say or do so I just kept trying to answer her simply and tell her not to worry she was probably just tired and fibbed and said she knew who I was most of the time. I told her I loved her a lot and she had no need to be sorry and I'd be there in the morning. I tried to talk to her about a program that was coming on shortly that she liked and she said she was going to watch that, she still sounded a bit wobbly when we said bye, but better than she had earlier in call so I hope she is ok and watched the program she liked and it took her mind off things. I hung up and had a bit of a cry worrying about her and feeling so sorry for her being so confused.
I read report carer wrote yesterday and she'd put mum had been a bit confused later in the afternoon if I'd been yesterday so she'd reassured her I had and reminded her of some of things we'd talked about. It looks like although when I was there with carer mum knew who I was she must have forgot again later.
Bit of an upsetting day for both of us in the end today unfortunately
She was ok for a while but then looked a bit fidgety and unsettled again and when I asked what was wrong she said she was just thinking about Our Andie, she said I don't know why she doesn't come and see me cos I haven't done anything to her and started talking about Our Andie as if it wasn't me again.
She was a bit snuffly and sniffy again for a little while this afternoon and with being confused too she seemed a bit fed up and sad for a while. The snuffly sniffyness went off after a little while but she still seemed a bit mixed up. When hubby came at dinner time she seemed ok with us and I wasn't sure if knew who I was or not but she had started calling me Andie before I left.
When I got home tonight she rang and asked me to come see her, I thought she meant then so I asked what the matter was and she said nothing I just want to see you I miss you. She didn't know it was me who had been today she thought it was someone else. Then she told me my dad had just died and asked if I knew. We were on phone for about 1/4 of an hour and she got quite upset about not knowing I'd been, how long she'd lived in her house, how long dad had been dead, when they'd split up. She kept asking questions and saying oh I'm sorry I didn't know, that my memory is no good, or I'm confused. She said she was so pleased I'd been to see her cos she missed me. She kept asking if i had my own house with hubby and if I was ok and happy and saying oh I am glad because I love you. She was quite teary sounding and kept saying she was sorry she didn't know it was me who went everyday.
I didn't know what to say or do so I just kept trying to answer her simply and tell her not to worry she was probably just tired and fibbed and said she knew who I was most of the time. I told her I loved her a lot and she had no need to be sorry and I'd be there in the morning. I tried to talk to her about a program that was coming on shortly that she liked and she said she was going to watch that, she still sounded a bit wobbly when we said bye, but better than she had earlier in call so I hope she is ok and watched the program she liked and it took her mind off things. I hung up and had a bit of a cry worrying about her and feeling so sorry for her being so confused.
I read report carer wrote yesterday and she'd put mum had been a bit confused later in the afternoon if I'd been yesterday so she'd reassured her I had and reminded her of some of things we'd talked about. It looks like although when I was there with carer mum knew who I was she must have forgot again later.
Bit of an upsetting day for both of us in the end today unfortunately