Thanks for the suggestions
@DesperateofDevon x
I'm feeling grumpy at hubby at mo as he walked off downstairs while I was talking to him which pigged me off as its something he does fairly often, when I told him he said 'oh sorry I thought you were following me' which is a usual reply, that or his other favourite,' I thought you'd finished', Yeah right thats why I was mid sentence and in middle of something when you set off downstairs and if you thought I was following you didn't you notice it had gone quiet?!!!!?
We'd got in from mums about 8 and while I was emptying the washer he was telling me something about work so I waited with my arms full of wet washing till he was ready to go upstairs and then I followed him and I was putting washing in spare room on the airer he got changed out of work things while we were still talking. I was sorting more washing and talking to him about plans for when my sister and her boyfriend come down this weekend when he finished getting changed and he just walked off downstairs into the kitchen, leaving me talking to myself
I know its not a big thing and he is really good, in fact a saint really to put up with me, especially lately when our lives seem to revolve around mum and I'm always talking about her, but its something he's done for years that really bugs me. Makes me feel he's not interested and not listening as he'd notice I hadn't finished and that he could no longer hear me if he was. So I'm sulking a bit and feeling a bit peeved, even though to be honest I don't really blame him for zoning out as I do tend to go on, as you've probably noticed. And he'd come from work to mums and sat at mums for an hour and half which is not his ideal way to spend an evening and he'd probably come in and thought he had another evening coming of listening to me worrying about mum, with possibly a call from mum as well as she was quite confused when we left. I think I'm annoyed at him for doing it and annoyed at myself for being annoyed, confused? Yep me too!! Anyway that should probably be on another forum, Tp isn't really for grumpy wives is it.
Mum wasn't too bad today and seemed to know me most of the day until evening. She did seem quite tired and nodded a few times even though she said she had had a good sleep but then a bit later she said the box had talked to her again last night it was about 12 and she'd been checking back door was locked and it asked her if she was outside. She wasn't sure why she had had to check it as she hadnt unlocked it since we took her home but she couldnt help herself
I told her just to try handle and not unlock it to check its locked. If her time was right shehad gone to bed late so that probably why tired today.
She told me this morning she thought she had been worse at mixing things up this week. Said she seemed to get most things wrong. Said she didn't know if she'd dreamed it or something but thought she had gone to 'friends' yesterday and 'friend' wasnt there but 'friends hubby' had been there with a lass with dark hair. She said it felt real but she didn't think she'd seen them for ages.
It was our house she'd been to and she had thought my hubby was 'friends hubby' and had wondered why he was with me not 'friend'. So I told her not to worry about it, sometimes she mixes me and hubby up with them and she'd been at mine yesterday. She said she knew she must be mixed up, and seemed to be mixing allsorts up lately and wondered why she'd mixed us up. I said its nothing to worry about mum you were just mixing a bit of an old memory with a new one it doesn't really matter and she seemed ok with that.
We had a bit of a chat about her having a carer today, mum brought it up and though she isn't keen on strangers coming in to her house and worried she wont know what to say or do with them she seems to be accepting that they are good idea. I've told her I'll be there first time or two they come so she doesn't have meet them on her own. She also talked a bit more about day centre and was worried they wouldn't know she was going to go again on Wednesday so I said I'd ring them tomorrow and remind them as I want to talk to them about her tablets anyway which she seemed happy with. I'm glad she wants to go back.
Then she said she was a bit worried she wasn't getting her pension as she hadn't been for it so I explained it goes straight in to her bank and we draw out money when she wants it. She asked a couple of times about it during the day and when talking bout carers she thought she'd have to have cash to pay them so I said they'd send a bill and we'd sort it out, she didn't have to give them cash each visit.
Apart from the odd bit of mixing up she's been quite calm and relaxed today and most of the day I was pretty sure she knew who I was and she knew hubby when he came too, but then about half an hour before we left she went to loo and when she came out I said something about going home after programme finished and calling in to shop on way home and she asked me where I was going? I said again we're going home and calling in shop on way and she asked where's home? She looked quite confused and when I said to my house where we live she asked if we had a home together now? I said yes and she said Oh I thought you might be still at your mums !!! Don't know who she thought I was but obviously not her daughter.
Then she asked if we'd lived together long and where it was. She said oh thats nice for you then sat looking a bit blank before getting her address book and looking through it. After a bit of asking where our village is near and about other people who live in it she said you live at so and so dont you? and had obviously found us in the book so I said yes thats it. She asked me if I was coming tomorrow and I said yes I'll come in morning and she seemed ok after that but still looked a bit confused so I was quite nervous leaving her when it was time to go.