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Thats what I wondered too. Wonder if putting a coloured towel or bath mat over edge of bath might deter her if confusing bath for loo, although that might mean towel or whatever got dirty. And could have no effect at all, not sure xDid she perhaps sit on the edge with her bum hanging over the bath, then suddenly realise she was sat in the wrong place and transferred mid stream?
Thanks for that @Pete1 x We don't have a family solicitor but I can look for a local one. I wondered if they might need report from GP or memory team DR or something to prove had capacity, or if they gauged it themselves so its helpful to know yours came out to see your mum. At moment might not be able to see us in person so may have to wait but sis and I could at least look for local solicitor and ask price and if can be done and when. If we do get it started and solicitor says mum not got capacity to decide for herself then we'll have to start trying for deputyship. I mentioned both to my sister yesterday and she'd said she'd do some googling and read up on both. I've looked before and didn't think lpa was something could do ourselves as don't have people to sign itso thought of using solicitor, but I did find it all quite confusing when reading lpa and deputyship stuff so sis reading too might mean we get some where to understanding it.Hi @annielou, I did arrange the LPA through our family solicitors - they came out (when I was there) and asked me to leave the room whilst they spoke with her. They understood that although she had dementia she still had capacity for decision making, but also wanted to ensure (quite rightly) she wasn't under duress. The whole visit took about 30 minutes and they went away and did the rest. If you want to go down the route of using solicitors I would suggest you or your sister calls the family solicitor for a chat on how to proceed - if you don't have one, look online for local firms that provide this service (most do now).
Sorry to hear about your Mum's growing confusion with relatives that have passed - it is a really difficult situation to manage for sure. There is no easy answer at all. A lot of good suggestions for help, but it is certainly challenging and relentless in its nature. I found that when Mum went into residential care they could certainly provide her with the reassurance. All the best.
Yes increase it , as @Starting on a journey wisely says give it time , one reasonable day out of a lot of mixed up ones , read your texts to your sis and see why she contacted memory clinic . It will not do Mum harm taking them but can only help . I hope you get app quickly for referral , my thinking Is will she be ok left at home alone after an op , will she be able to remember the things she needs to do ? Don’t want to be Negative Nelly but just something for you to think about (as if you didn’t have enough ) . XThanks @Woo2 @Bikerbeth xx If can get mum to appointment I'd really like to know if could do anything and options. I was really annoyed when mum refused to go before. It was the whole eye thing that highlighted there was something wrong with mum as she was quite irrational and kept forgetting about it and mixing things up. Me, my sister and hubby tried very hard to get her go to last referral but she wouldn't. I'm glad your OH @Bikerbeth didn't have much pain that's good to know. A work friend of hubbys had same operation at same hospital mum will go to last year and she did struggle with recovery and vision isn't much improved yet, but there's still time for more improvement. Everybody will be a bit different, but it's good to know people who have it done's opinions. Hubbys friend let us read all the info she got from hospital afterwards and I read quite a bit online at the time. I do worry how mum will cope with recovery because after she had her cataracts done she struggled more so with 2nd eye, but we'll cross that bridge when we know more.
Thats exactly my plan for Thursday @Woo2 ironing and changing bed lol. Not very exciting but I feel drained when get back from mums on evening and I've never been a get up and get going early person so doing some jobs on afternoon off saves me doing as much evenings and mornings.
I think that's what I'll do with tablets today thanks x. I'll give mum 100mg & 50mg to start with and say chemist didn't have right dose when she asks why two, and then start with 3 x 50mg next month and if needs be say same again. As she wasn't as agitated or upset yesterday I'm wondering if should increase dose, maybe she doesn't need it? But a calmer day doesn't necessairily mean she's calmer overall does it?