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Meal times are a bit of eurrgghh time for us
? , both me and mum have often said over the years we wish there was a tablet we could take instead of eating dinner (have to be a chewable one for me as can't swallow tablets
) Growing up the only meal time I always enjoyed was breakfast cos I loved cereal,( can't have a lot of those now as upset my stomach), but if I could have eaten 3 lots of cereal a day I'd have been happy. There were very few meals mum made that I enjoyed, dad liked things fried and stuck to same few things with chips mostly and I didn't like mums crispy fried chips.
When I got married and started cooking for me and hubby I found more things I liked and rarely had anything fried so enjoyed food a bit more but I still got fed up of thinking what to have and didn't enjoy cooking so still would have preferred a tablet rather than a meal a lot of the time.
Mum has been the same for quite a while too, she would struggle to think of something she fancied and then not feel like bothering just for her and she never really increased amount of things she ate much, in fact it shrunk a bit to things she could slip on a tray in oven, so she often says the same thing about wishing there was just a tablet instead. It would certainly make life easier now. Out of all those great suggestions I've had the only thing mum eats is stew.
Hoping today is an ok day, yesterday evening wasn't great . Mum was calling me 'friend' most of time yesterday and was quite moany in afternoon, we didn't argue or get upset really, although she did snap and shout at me at one point but I told her not to shout at me and luckily she didn't after. She was mixed up late afternoon and early evening while we were there about houses again and then she rang me twice last night asking if I'd been to see her and if she was in right house.
The last call at 1/4 to 9 she thought we had all been living together at last house her, dad, sister and me until recently (first time she has included my sister its usually just her dad and me) then she'd moved to that bungalow. She thought she hadn't seen me since then and that I'd fallen out with her and didn't know where she lived. She asked if I was ok and if sis was ok because she hadn't seen us. Kept wanting to know if she had to get furniture and her clothes out of our house to take to her bungalow because she didn't know if she had taken them. I told her a few times she'd taken everything with her when moved, and explained where me and sis lived and that we hadn't fallen out with her and still saw her.
She asked me countless times during call if I went to see her and if she could come to my house when she was better. It took quite a bit of reassuring her I loved her, saw her everyday, would be there in morning and she came to my house on weekends and could come again before she started to calm down. She said she was glad she rang because she thought I didn't love her now and she was glad I did and I went to see her.
She sounded calmer, but still had a bit of a scared little girl voice and I didn't want to hang up while she was still like that so I talked to her a bit about a new colouring book that I'd got for her and said I'd take it over today and that seemed to cheer her up before we said out love yous and night nights. I hope it helped and she was ok when she hung up, she didn't ring back again so fingers crossed ?
Carer is due today so I hope that goes ahead and mums ok. I have a pile of ironing to do and want to change our bed when I get home but I didn't sleep well last night and have been awake since half six so I'm not really in mood. I may end up slumped face down on ironing board LOL?
Hope everyone has a good day today x