Mum had a good day at Day centre thanks
@Woohoo @Sarasa @Bikerbeth xxx Hope you've all had good days x
Mum said there weren't as many there again like last time she went, but the number did vary when she talked about it so not sure if actually were less people than first she time went, there is a new dementia day centre opened in town recently so maybe some have switched to there, but however many were there mum still said she enjoyed it which is all that matters to me.
The subject of carers came up today and I mentioned someone was coming to see us next week about her having carer come couple of afternoons a week. Mum seemed more bothered that it might mean she wouldn't be going to day centre anymore than about having someone new come to house, so I told her a few times that she could still go like she does now and she seemed relieved. She told me it's nice to have that day out and get chance to chat to others and play games etc, and she'd like to keep that day a week. I was chuffed to little mint balls to hear her talking positively about day centre and still wanting to go. ? ??
Apart from wondering if having carer meant she couldn't go to day centre she was ok when I mentioned someone coming to see us. She did ask if they'd be there all the time and if I wouldn't come anymore so I told her I'd go every day like I do now but a couple of afternoons I'd go home about 2ish and carer would come. She'd stay with her in afternoon, if she wanted go out to shop or something she could go with her, if she was doing anything round house she could help her, or she could just sit and chat and watch tv with her like we were doing and then at dinnertime she would cook her dinner for her and then go home after. It would be regular people coming so she'd get to know them and it would be company and like having a friend come for afternoon and she seemed ok with it. She did she say she didn't want them there all time and prefer them to go after dinner but she didn't say much else just moved onto chatting about something else.
I'm sure when it comes to it she will worry and be nervous and panic a bit, as will I to be honest, but she seems much more accepting of carer idea nowadays.
I won't say much more about it to her as I don't want to build it up for her into a worry, I'll just mention it if it comes up, a bit like today and let mum lead the conversation if she wants to ask anything, but other than that I will just mention it as if sorted and agreed on and nothing to worry about and hopefully that will help her feel ok and not too stressed about it. ?
Doing the ironing wasn't a very rock and roll way to spend my time at home today but I do feel a bit better for doing some. It's not got rid of the massive pile I had (ironing pile not haemorrhoid
) but it's made a dint in it. I haven't had chance to do any proper ironing over last few weeks, I've just done the odd half hour or hour a few times after I've got back from mums on an evening, just ironing enough for 2 or 3 days at a time so it's nice for hubby and I to have a bit of choice in our wardrobes again now. . ??
My sister asked if I had took any time for myself while I was at home today, I said I sat down for 20 minutes to eat my lunch and look up buses for tomorrow as I'm taking mum for breast screening appointment. Sis said that'll be a no then!. But at least I don't feel quite as stressed and annoyed by the ironing now there is a bit less of it. I do struggle with knowing I've not done my housework etc as much or as thoroughly as I used to. There is only so much I can get done on an evening and weekend mornings so any work I get done while mums at day centre and hopefully when she's with carer soon, is a bonus and bit of a relief. As
@Sarasa says it feels better when jobs that have been annoying us are done.
Hope all goes well for your tidy upstairs session on Friday
@Woohoo ,? we're as rock and roll as each other lol
