I think your feeling is spot on .....now you really do need to be reading back at how very upsetting it’s been for you all and how much your Mum has deteriorated, and keep it very much at the front of your mind exactly how much of a struggle it is now and how impossible every day was that you were trying to care for your Mum and give her everything she needs.
You can’t keep her safe anymore...don’t let these last few days and visits lul you into a false assurance that you can continue....you can’t.
She may appear more settled because of where she is.....at home she would revert back.
The fact that you didn’t label her clothes tells me that you still think it’s possible that she can come home, despite the social worker confirming she can go to respite for assessment at least!!
@annielou i hope you know that I am only trying to advise and support you but you really do need to stand up and do this for your Mum’s safety.
There is nothing to feel guilty about, you must know in your own heart that you have absolutely done everything and more for your Mum....now it’s time to be her advocate and get her the help she desperately needs to keep her safe.
It’s not ever what anybody wants, but there comes a time when there really is no choice....now it’s that time.
It’s never going to be ideal, but your Mum will adapt and most importantly be well cared for 24 hours a day and be safe....
Hopefully tomorrow will bring more discussions and decisions.... be strong, stand your ground, lots of people are here supporting you.
Thinking of you all and sending hugs to help you through x