Hope nobody minds if I ramble on about our stressful lunch outing. We had a very nice meal in a lovely Chinese restaurant run by a man OH has known for over 25 years. She got very flustered when she had to use the facilities and her knees locked up. They have no disabled facility. The more her daughter and I tried to help the more flustered she got, but got there eventually despite a wee accident. On the way out she felt she had to tell her friend that her first husband died, that was 28 years ago. The worst bit was I actually felt slightly annoyed at her for doing that, jealousy or something stupid, and embarrassed. After caring for her for 4 years and being on this forum long enough I should know better. Sorry to offload on people who have much harder to deal with, it's just another reminder of how much dementia sufferers (the right term ?) go through and how much I have to learn in order to support her properly. Thanks for reading and all the best to everybody.