Hello fellow carers, I need some advice please. My Brother-in-Law Harry is 92 years old, suffering from dementia (according to his carers, although he hasn't been formally diagnosed) and still living in his own home with carers coming in 4 times daily. He refused the financial assessment so has to pay the full charges which amount to roughly £230 per week. This has been the case since December when the carers first started coming in following a lengthy spell in hospital, and so far he has refused to pay for them because he says he doesn't think it is right that he's worked all his life for the money he has and now when he's old and needs help they want to take it from him. Anyway, he has now run up a debt of over £7000 and the council have sent in the debt collectors. I have POA for him and could easily arrange for the money to be paid but he says no, and if I do he will revoke the POA, he says he wants to go to court and stand up in front of the judge and say his piece and then that he's going to write to "The Papers" and tell them all about it and how disgraceful it is.. Trying to get hold of his social worker is impossible, all I get is a recorded message saying all lines are busy and to try again later. This has been going on for several weeks now and I'm at my wits end. I would dearly love Harry to come and live with me and my son here in our home where he would have company and be warm and comfortable (his bungalow is very old and has damp and mildew growing up the walls) but so far he has resisted so the care fees just keep adding up! Does anyone have any advice they can give me please? How can I persuade him that he'd be much better off living here with his own room (en suite shower and loo) 3 meals a day, a car at his disposal if he would like me to take him out places, and someone to chat to instead of being left alone all day except for when the carers pop in to give him his meals and medication? He is virtually deaf now anyway and tells me he doesn't have a clue what they are saying as they are all "foreign" Thank you in advance.