Hi. This is my first time and I just need some advice. My 79 year old father is completely bedridden, fed and medicated through a peg as he is unable to swallow, cannot speak, has a catheter, is diabetic and has now been diagnosed with dementia. He has no quality of life and now very audibly makes moaning sounds most of the day. He is cared for by my 77 year old mother with the help of some lovely carers who call 4 times a day to clean and turn him etc. I live a while away but try and get down every week to see him and I phone my mum most nights to make sure she is ok as she herself is very unwell. The problem I have is that she is at the end of her tether, breaking down regularly, and does not seem to get any help or advice from social services or her doctor. My sisters and I (and my mum) feel it is time to get him professional medical help in a care home but have no idea where to start. I have emailed the social services today but am not holding out much hope of a reply as they have not been much help so far. Mum is going to see the doctor on Thursday with dads blood figures and I am going to go with her to ask the doctor what to do. My mum feels INCREDIBLY guilty about putting him in a home as he has worked all his life for his house, but she just cannot cope any more. Does anyone know if there is anybody else we need to contact that will fight our corner?