My 74-yr old mum is showing signs of dementia. I first noticed it in March this year and since then she has deteriorated. She lives 170 miles away and I'm finding it difficult to know what to do. I wrote to her GP who eventually called me back at work but couldn't say much (understandably) because of confidentiality and spoke in very general terms. I've been with her to the doctor's about other health problems which she had to ensure that she was clear about what tablets she needed to take and when. I touched on her forgetfulness but mum got very prickly about this. In the past she's blamed me for her forgetting and became quite aggressive. She's fairly independent. She has a partner, but doesn't live with him and he too is finding it a strain to cope with her. I speak to her every day, some days she sounds OK and others depressed and fed up. I become very emotional when trying to articulate all this to her doctor and on first appearances, mum comes over very well, which makes it even more difficult! I suppose the hardest thing is me accepting that my mum is getting older and the once vibrant woman is disappearing before my eyes. Anybody any ideas, suggestions about what I should do next?