When my uncle died I was very unwell and waiting on surgery so I was in no fit state to fly over to help my aunt sort out his affairs so my uncle (her elder brother) and his wife took care of it. As some of you will know from reading my other thread I've been helping my aunt get her own affairs in order now as she had been putting it off for too long.
As I didn't want to be accused of anything I advised we should tell the said uncle that she had been to see the solicitor. My uncle's wife upon hearing that the will is a mirror image of my late uncles huffed and said it wasn't fair her (already amazingly wealthy) sons were getting nothing. I wondered how she knew who was in the will as I wasn't even present when it was drawn up but it transpires she saw my uncles will when he died. She has asked my aunt to go back to the solicitor to add the sons name. I have cousins who are as poor as church mice who I know will now get much less if these names are added. My late uncle knew the sons were fablously wealthy with second homes both here and abroad and stand to inherit from their own parents too.
What do I do.. To me it amounts to my poor aunt being made to feel guilty. She is so afraid of causing offence she will agree to anything. Do I contact the solicitor to say I don't believe she's adding these names of her own free will but rather to 'please' the boys' mother. The boys' mother is also not jumping for joy that I'm being given POA. Her boys wouldn't want it as they have enough on their plates with lots of young children and high powered careers so I can't see what her issues are.
I spoke with the boys' mother this afternoon but whilst she said she knew I'd been seeing my aunt she never mentioned that she'd asked her to change her will. She did say that it would be better for the solicitor to be the POA. I said that would hardly be practical. Thankfully my aunt is not going to try to rescind that.
What if the boys mother did get in contact with the solicitor however to say she feels I shouldn't have POA. Considering auntie's memory is getting worse month by month I'm more than worried the day is fast approaching when no solicitor would agree to her making a POA so was more than relieved to get it set up last Friday.
I don't stand to gain financially in anyway as the boys mother told me I was not mentioned in my late uncles will so if the new one is a mirror image it stands to reason i'm not in it either. I'm not bothered as my reasons for being involved are to ensure my aunt is well cared for in the remaining years of her life. None of cousins bother about her or even call and some of them live less than an hour away.
This is stressing me out and if I'd known the hassle involved I'd have had second thoughts.
As I didn't want to be accused of anything I advised we should tell the said uncle that she had been to see the solicitor. My uncle's wife upon hearing that the will is a mirror image of my late uncles huffed and said it wasn't fair her (already amazingly wealthy) sons were getting nothing. I wondered how she knew who was in the will as I wasn't even present when it was drawn up but it transpires she saw my uncles will when he died. She has asked my aunt to go back to the solicitor to add the sons name. I have cousins who are as poor as church mice who I know will now get much less if these names are added. My late uncle knew the sons were fablously wealthy with second homes both here and abroad and stand to inherit from their own parents too.
What do I do.. To me it amounts to my poor aunt being made to feel guilty. She is so afraid of causing offence she will agree to anything. Do I contact the solicitor to say I don't believe she's adding these names of her own free will but rather to 'please' the boys' mother. The boys' mother is also not jumping for joy that I'm being given POA. Her boys wouldn't want it as they have enough on their plates with lots of young children and high powered careers so I can't see what her issues are.
I spoke with the boys' mother this afternoon but whilst she said she knew I'd been seeing my aunt she never mentioned that she'd asked her to change her will. She did say that it would be better for the solicitor to be the POA. I said that would hardly be practical. Thankfully my aunt is not going to try to rescind that.
What if the boys mother did get in contact with the solicitor however to say she feels I shouldn't have POA. Considering auntie's memory is getting worse month by month I'm more than worried the day is fast approaching when no solicitor would agree to her making a POA so was more than relieved to get it set up last Friday.
I don't stand to gain financially in anyway as the boys mother told me I was not mentioned in my late uncles will so if the new one is a mirror image it stands to reason i'm not in it either. I'm not bothered as my reasons for being involved are to ensure my aunt is well cared for in the remaining years of her life. None of cousins bother about her or even call and some of them live less than an hour away.
This is stressing me out and if I'd known the hassle involved I'd have had second thoughts.