My parents both have AD, mum more advanced than dad and with quite different needs,still living at home, with care. A week ago, they returned home after a 2 week respite stay (their first) at a local care home whilst I was away on holiday. The stay went ok (no major incidents), helped by daily visits from their homecare team. Dad is happy to be home, and occupied by the garden which he loves, but Mum is now quite restless and I've been visiting more often (they have 3-4 care visits a day, meals on wheels, and daily (now twice daily) visits from me (I live very close). The last 2 years have been a bit of a rollercoaster, doing all I can to keep Mum and Dad together at home. This week, I have arrived at their house to find compost bin emptied outside the front door, the key not working to lock their door from outside, blocked toilet, food all over the carpet, tv knocked over, Mum's jewellery (wedding ring) discarded, house boiling hot (heating on), Mum's hand very bruised and complaining of a sore arm, mum stooping forward earlier in the week and generally out of sorts. Dad also more confused and less able to understand and deal with things (communication compromised). Although none of these is the end of the world and not necessarily out of the ordinary (relatively speaking), I'm feeling overwhelmed at the relentlessness of trying to keep it all together for them.
The challenge is that mum would not be able to look after herself and as such could potentially settle in a care home, but dad is not ready for that, and equally not able to fully understand Mum's needs......Help!
Not sure there is an answer to this,but any thoughts, comments etc most welcome! Gx
The challenge is that mum would not be able to look after herself and as such could potentially settle in a care home, but dad is not ready for that, and equally not able to fully understand Mum's needs......Help!
Not sure there is an answer to this,but any thoughts, comments etc most welcome! Gx