my father is 80 and severely disabled following a stroke my mother of 75 has cared for him over the last 5 years but now she is showing obvious signs of dementia. I have attended doctors appointment with her because she forgets what the dr tells her. I have explained this to the dr but he is reluctant to diagnose her with dementia. she is being tested for depression and on the last visit he increased her medication. when she can my sister works from their home to monitor them. she told me yesterday that my mother is wearing the same clothes everyday. only last week I took my parents shopping and my mother chose 2 new pairs of trousers and 8 tops which she hasn't remembered doing. she's always been very attentive to her appearance and what she wears.
their home is a complete mess and far too big but my mother gets very upset when we suggest any kind of help. she has mood swings, gets very emotional and weepy and has become quite paranoid about her neighbors not liking her and wanting to harm her. my sister and I have demanding careers and our own children so the balance is very difficult but we can't go on as we are and need to find out if there is come one out there we can talk to who can make recommendation on how to improve my parents care. I would welcome steers from any members please?
their home is a complete mess and far too big but my mother gets very upset when we suggest any kind of help. she has mood swings, gets very emotional and weepy and has become quite paranoid about her neighbors not liking her and wanting to harm her. my sister and I have demanding careers and our own children so the balance is very difficult but we can't go on as we are and need to find out if there is come one out there we can talk to who can make recommendation on how to improve my parents care. I would welcome steers from any members please?