where are you mam?

Jacquetta

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Jan 30, 2015
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Don't post much its too painful.Today my father told me last night my beautiful and clever and talented mother was looking for him in the garage and asking him where he was ...he of course was in the same room saying here I am don't worry...what a cruel cruel heartbreaking disease this is....my hope is someone somewhere will be able to find a cure and give hope to all those out there yet to go through this...virtual hugs to all...
 

Padraig

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Dec 10, 2009
1,039
Hereford
My late wife was the same, but I learned to accept it. Over the whole 12/13 years of Alzheimer's I learned to understand in my own way. As the pages of time in her mind blew away I was no longer the man she married, he was a much younger person.
The changes are sometimes rapid and other times slow, often stop for a while, then take hold completely.
 

CollegeGirl

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Jan 19, 2011
9,525
North East England
I'm so sorry Jacquetta. This is one of the hardest things to bear.

My mam doesn't know me now, but occasionally I see her looking at me with a certain look in her eyes and I know she's trying to place me. Sometimes she will call me 'pet' and last week she kissed me of her own accord. I treasure those moments.
 

Sianey

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Mar 23, 2015
103
Yorkshire
Your mum

Don't post much its too painful.Today my father told me last night my beautiful and clever and talented mother was looking for him in the garage and asking him where he was ...he of course was in the same room saying here I am don't worry...what a cruel cruel heartbreaking disease this is....my hope is someone somewhere will be able to find a cure and give hope to all those out there yet to go through this...virtual hugs to all...
Hi Jacquetta,

It is very sad and stressful to go through, I can sympathise.

Before Mam went into a home I remember shouting her from her kitchen (she was in her conservatory) and so I could see her, I shouted 'Mam' and saw her lean down to a chair and say 'I'll just get her' as if she didn't know she was a Mam to anyone :(

Take care,

Sianey
 

Sianey

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Mar 23, 2015
103
Yorkshire
I'm so sorry Jacquetta. This is one of the hardest things to bear.

My mam doesn't know me now, but occasionally I see her looking at me with a certain look in her eyes and I know she's trying to place me. Sometimes she will call me 'pet' and last week she kissed me of her own accord. I treasure those moments.
CollegeGirl I too have had the look as well, Mine doesn't know who I am now either and sometimes can't understand how a ponytail is on an eighty year old as Mam thinks I'm her sister and asks don't you curl your hair under like I do?

Sianey