I had a bad morning this morning carer rang doorbell at 8am we were both asleep I was having a nightmare and it woke me up. I nearly fell out of bed didn't make it to the door in time. Telephone rang care agency wanted to know why they couldn't get in I reminded them our call time was between 9 and 9.45am They said she might not be able to come back. I got ready got my wife up at 9am at 10am nobody came . My wife was in the wheelchair in pyjamas so changed her top part then with the aid of a walker stood her up to change her trousers the only problem was she didn't want to do it no amount of pleading would change her mind. I had to lift her out of the chair without her helping so I was lifting 70kg and at the same time pulling up her trousers and then sitting her in the armchair. I hate to think what this does to my body. She can be very stubborn when she doesn't want to do what you ask.