i saw on the local news i think that a man had adapted a shower curtain between him and his mum and he had made sleeves each side so that they could hug without contact with curtain inbetween
Further thought...where would we go to the loo? I can't see the Care Home letting us in to go the loo. Does anyone have any ideas of what is the best thing to do?
I found it rather a strange scenario that they were happy for me to accompany him but are reluctant to make plans for us to see our loved ones, so it was an unexpected treat to see my husband physically and know that he still remembers me so it has set my mind at rest for a few days at least.
No you’re right it wouldn’t have been my first choice but at the moment you’ve got to take everything you can get I guess.Wow, what a way for your day to evolve! So pleased your husband recognised you and that you got to spend so much time together - though I bet A and E wouldn't have been your first choice for the reunion!
But you're right - happy to let you accompany your husband, but not see him at the home does seem a tad strange. And now that he's been out of the home for a few hours, do you think they'll try and keep him in isolation?
Well I have my answer.....no they won't let us go to the loo in the Care home !! And I have to be tested negative before they let people in. This is going to be introduced in a few weeks time . I am going to have to put myself a risk going to the loo in a motorway service station. Is this reasonable?Further thought...where would we go to the loo? I can't see the Care Home letting us in to go the loo. Does anyone have any ideas of what is the best thing to do?
I'm so sorry your Mum didn't recognise you. You must be very sad. She'll probably recognise you when you can visit more often. We normally stay overnight in a hotel since we sold Mum's house last July but then we see her for two and a half hours on the day we arrive and the same amount of time the next morning before we set off home again. So well worth staying in a hotel. I'll have to wait to see the actual restrictions. If we can only see Mum for a hour or so it's very difficult. I'll have to put pressure on the Manager to make exception for us.Are you referring to visits outdoors or inside the home? In my area test results are taking about a week to come back so you could be negative when tested but positive by the time the result came back! I visited mum in the garden on Monday - access was via a side gate so I didn't need to go inside the home. I had to wear a mask and maintain social distancing but no test was required. I live about half an hour's drive away so had to 'hold it' until I got home to use the loo which isn't good for those who are travelling longer distances or have weak bladders. Do you normally have an overnight stay when visiting your mum? Not ideal, but as you have a 7 hour round trip then you might have to think about delaying a visit until the hotels open.
Disappointingly, mum's face lit up every time she saw me pre-lockdown when I visited 2/3 times a week but now she seems to have no recognition of who I am at all, even when I lifted the mask up briefly. Video calls didn't work, and they wouldn't let me see her through a window, and I think that 10 weeks has just been too long for mum to remember me.
Perhaps when you can visit complete with hugs and without the mask, your mum will recognise you @ Louise, fingers crossed.
I'm so sorry your Mum didn't recognise you. You must be very sad. She'll probably recognise you when you can visit more often. We normally stay overnight in a hotel since we sold Mum's house last July but then we see her for two and a half hours on the day we arrive and the same amount of time the next morning before we set off home again. So well worth staying in a hotel. I'll have to wait to see the actual restrictions. If we can only see Mum for a hour or so it's very difficult. I'll have to put pressure on the Manager to make exception for us.
I tried to arrange a garden or through the window visit today (because it is our 54th wedding anniversary) but the Home were having none of it.
Well the promised call did come through at 5.45 just as I sat down with my tea. The zoom wasn't much better - kept freezing the picture and delaying the sound. However OH was in good spirits, laughing and apologising for having forgotten the anniversary (no change there, he never remembered until our daughters prompted him.) He did know it was me and called me by name, which was better than the last couple of calls when he didn't and finished by blowing kisses. Then when younger daughter came by to drop my shopping on the doorstep she also left a gorgeous bouquet of flowers for me, shouting from the gate that she knew her Father would have wanted me to have them. All's Well that ends Well.I'm so sorry the home wasn't able to let you see your husband on such a special day. And then for the Zoom call to fall apart - as you say, heartbreaking. I really hope you were able to see your husband eventually.
Hopefully it won't be long now before you get to see him for real!