My mother has deteriorated even more. I had reduced my visits because I was finding it so upsetting - she does not know me etc Now she is in bed and surviving on liquids only. But these include ensure and complain. Could I ask the CH to stop these as I feel they are prolonging her life ? Or is it me struggling to cope ? I am the only relative, my mother was not the the best and because of this my husband refuses to have any involvement in her care. He has not seen her since she went into the care home 18 months ago. I feel a bit on my own.