My mother in law has always looked after my kids while I worked. I will be forever grateful to her for that, especially when I see the issues my work mates have with childcare etc. My son is 18 now and my daughter is 10, so she still needs looking after. But the last few times that she has been with her nan, there has been "something" gone wrong. Normally little things like losing my daughters hoody, or getting the wrong bus home but I am just so worried that its going to get worse. At what point do i tell my mother in law that she cant take her out anymore. I swear that having my kids to look after has kept her healthy and kept the dementia at bay for several years now and I know for a fact that it will truly break her heart when the day comes that i need to have "the conversation" I can sometimes persuade my 18yr old to go with them but obviously, at his age, this is something of a drag to him and it normally costs me money to blackmail him lol! My kids have the most lovely relationship with there nan and when i have ever been complimented on their manners etc i have always given the credit to my mother in law, such is how close they have been and the relatinship they have. so my kids will also be heartbroken when things change. people tell me my daughter is old enough to look out for her nan while they are out, but is it selfish of me to say i dont want my 10yr old to become a carer adn i dont want her to have such responsibilty at her age. the kids break up next week and the summer holidays are on us. usually my daughter and her nan will go of for long days out adn big adventures. i might just get the summer holidays out of it but if i do, i know this will be the last school holidays that they spend together but how do i tell her?