Hi this is my first time here! My mum has alzeheimers, she's only 66. We always had a very strong bond, but over the past 3 years this has disappeared. The progression of alzheimers has been remarkable, not aided by a recent 2 week stay in hospital. She used to accuse me of stealing etc from her and the language was quite abrupt, but even this has stopped now. In all purposes my mum has gone. My problem is my dad, he's the one who is with her 24/7, she follows him like a lapdog, he can't get any respite and is very hesitant to accept help. Yesterday I called at the house and was met with a rather unpleasant smell. On investigation I discovered that mum had soiled herself and had rolled it into a ball and place it on a table in the bathroom. Dad then admitted to me that she has started to do this every day, and he had to throw out her handbag as she had put some in there too. The look on his face was just utter failure, I'm sure he doesn't know what to do now and he is such a proud man, he just wants to look after her (Ithink there is a lot of guilt there). He is waiting on homehelp to be organised, but we've been waiting for over a month now. Is there any suggestions as to what I can do to help. I have 3 young children and work full time, so I can't always be there, but I do as much as I can. I know it's the last thing he wants, but when does the time come when you put someone you love in a home and how do you deal with it and accept it yourself???????