Mum 74 with moderate Alzheimers and Dad 77 with cognitive impairment.
My parents live in their own house behind ours. I am registered as Mums Carer, and have POA.
Dad has very little to do in the way of "caring" for Mum, apart from find things that are lost, and get Mum cups of coffee and cooks the evening meal... And generally supervises.
He has never understood Mums Alzheimers, despite having visits from our AD Key Worker., and many conversations with me. He has no coping skills or strategies, to help on a day to basis, but I have been told this is due to his cognitive impairment.
Mum still bathes, dresses herself, no incontinence, makes herself the most basic of meals, does the laundry (but starting to have difficulty)
All her other skills and activities as far as knitting, baking, reading, catching the bus to town, gardening, dancing, socialising with friends and family have been lost.
Even 2 yrs down the track Dad is either telling Mum to do some baking, or to catch the bus to her friends place, or asking why she doesn't do XYZ aymore
Dad really does at times look so flustered and at a loss with Mum, and as she is starting to get a bit tetchy, and up and down in her moods, its causing a lot of arguments between them.
Has anyone been in the situation where your other parent has just not been able to cope, even though your parent with dementia, is not at Care Home level.
Short of me giving up work entirely and being there 24/7, which is just not going to happen, that would be the only way Dad would manage.
Dad gets many hours respite from Mum, between me taking her out and Mum going to an Alzheimers activity group 3x a week.
They are not in a position to financially pay someone to live in ( Dad would not hear of it) and our Welfare system, would not deem Mum of a high enough level to qualify for regular home carer visits.
My parents live in their own house behind ours. I am registered as Mums Carer, and have POA.
Dad has very little to do in the way of "caring" for Mum, apart from find things that are lost, and get Mum cups of coffee and cooks the evening meal... And generally supervises.
He has never understood Mums Alzheimers, despite having visits from our AD Key Worker., and many conversations with me. He has no coping skills or strategies, to help on a day to basis, but I have been told this is due to his cognitive impairment.
Mum still bathes, dresses herself, no incontinence, makes herself the most basic of meals, does the laundry (but starting to have difficulty)
All her other skills and activities as far as knitting, baking, reading, catching the bus to town, gardening, dancing, socialising with friends and family have been lost.
Even 2 yrs down the track Dad is either telling Mum to do some baking, or to catch the bus to her friends place, or asking why she doesn't do XYZ aymore
Dad really does at times look so flustered and at a loss with Mum, and as she is starting to get a bit tetchy, and up and down in her moods, its causing a lot of arguments between them.
Has anyone been in the situation where your other parent has just not been able to cope, even though your parent with dementia, is not at Care Home level.
Short of me giving up work entirely and being there 24/7, which is just not going to happen, that would be the only way Dad would manage.
Dad gets many hours respite from Mum, between me taking her out and Mum going to an Alzheimers activity group 3x a week.
They are not in a position to financially pay someone to live in ( Dad would not hear of it) and our Welfare system, would not deem Mum of a high enough level to qualify for regular home carer visits.
