Hi everyone, been a while since I posted that mum had been kicked out of the residential care home in July and had to be moved to dementia nursing.
We are now 4 months in and she is still not settling at all. Our visits are beyond heartbreaking for us. We have, as advised by everyone scaled back our visits to three times a week for a couple of hours and when the time comes to leave she bolts for the door to stop us leaving (she is still very agile).
She is now refusing food again (being poisoned), still not taking her meds (being doped), we are at our wits end, she is losing weight, her mood is erratic. She says her stomach is churning with fear, but she does not know what she is frightened of, she begs us not to leave her. She calls us every name under the sun for putting her in care.
She has now started to make us swear on our death beds that we are not going to leave her, this does not sit well with me saying this. We try every distraction method we can think of, but she will not listen until we answer or say on our death beds.
It is making us ill now, I get home and cry as I am so down. My husband says just do not visit, but my heart won't let me.
When will she start to settle down as her surroundings are still unfamiliar to her all these months on.
I am just letting off steam as my husband does not seem to grasp how unpredictable dementia is and he is just concerned about my health.
Sorry for waffling
We are now 4 months in and she is still not settling at all. Our visits are beyond heartbreaking for us. We have, as advised by everyone scaled back our visits to three times a week for a couple of hours and when the time comes to leave she bolts for the door to stop us leaving (she is still very agile).
She is now refusing food again (being poisoned), still not taking her meds (being doped), we are at our wits end, she is losing weight, her mood is erratic. She says her stomach is churning with fear, but she does not know what she is frightened of, she begs us not to leave her. She calls us every name under the sun for putting her in care.
She has now started to make us swear on our death beds that we are not going to leave her, this does not sit well with me saying this. We try every distraction method we can think of, but she will not listen until we answer or say on our death beds.
It is making us ill now, I get home and cry as I am so down. My husband says just do not visit, but my heart won't let me.
When will she start to settle down as her surroundings are still unfamiliar to her all these months on.
I am just letting off steam as my husband does not seem to grasp how unpredictable dementia is and he is just concerned about my health.
Sorry for waffling